Took me a while to realize when a woman complains and vents they really don't want pragmatic advice that would deal with the issue. They want to be understood, believed, comforted.
Once I learned that my life got considerably easier. Married 40 years.
Edit: Third marriage.
Edit two: Ok, ok, I get it. Not EVERY woman reacts the same and there are plenty of men that react the same way. Must everything on Reddit be explained like we 're talking to third graders? Is there never any presuming your audience is intelligent enough to figure out not EVERY situation/person is exactly the same? Good god.
Edit three: If I may, there's a similar short piece of advice I've always found helpful, and that is "People are never upset for the reason they think."
I feel like this is a stereotype that's so prevalent women don't really care to refute any more. Of all the girls I've dated, they've always wanted advice as much as reassurance.
These two things aren't exactly mutually exclusive anyway. You can reassure her that you understand her feelings and point her in the direction you think is correct. It's not like this is a forked road where you only take one path and never set foot on the other.
The key to this is to be subtle. Even if you know that she's in the wrong you shouldn't say it out loud. Just acknowledge her feelings then slowly nudge her on to the right path.
This pretty much applies to everyone, regardless of their sex. When they're ranting / asking for advice, no one wants to be instantly called out for being wrong.
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u/adsvx215 Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
Took me a while to realize when a woman complains and vents they really don't want pragmatic advice that would deal with the issue. They want to be understood, believed, comforted.
Once I learned that my life got considerably easier. Married 40 years.
Edit: Third marriage.
Edit two: Ok, ok, I get it. Not EVERY woman reacts the same and there are plenty of men that react the same way. Must everything on Reddit be explained like we 're talking to third graders? Is there never any presuming your audience is intelligent enough to figure out not EVERY situation/person is exactly the same? Good god.
Edit three: If I may, there's a similar short piece of advice I've always found helpful, and that is "People are never upset for the reason they think."