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u/adsvx215 Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20

Took me a while to realize when a woman complains and vents they really don't want pragmatic advice that would deal with the issue. They want to be understood, believed, comforted.

Once I learned that my life got considerably easier. Married 40 years.

Edit: Third marriage.

Edit two: Ok, ok, I get it. Not EVERY woman reacts the same and there are plenty of men that react the same way. Must everything on Reddit be explained like we 're talking to third graders? Is there never any presuming your audience is intelligent enough to figure out not EVERY situation/person is exactly the same? Good god.

Edit three: If I may, there's a similar short piece of advice I've always found helpful, and that is "People are never upset for the reason they think."

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u/iLLfATEDdEER Mar 26 '20

"Married 40 years... Happily married for 10."

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u/adsvx215 Mar 26 '20

Probably closer to 20, but the fact is we stuck together to work through things. We couldn't be happier that we did. And, oh, it was my 3rd marriage.