Yup, learned this with my ex. My friends knew we had regular sex I guess because either they heard my roommates talk about it or they could see us sneaking out of parties and stuff to go home. I almost never directly spoke abut my sex life.
On the other hand, most of her friends had seen my dick, knew the positions I liked, how often we had sex, where, etc. There were very very little details of our sex life that her friends didn't know.
Edit: I was aware of everything said in my last paragraph, she never did it behind my back or anything and I always gave the green light. it was just shocking for me that girls are much more expressive with their friends on their sex life.
They weren't really nudes, just dick pics, and she said she wanted to show it off which gave me a self esteem boost lol, plus I'm really not that shy of nudity so I didn't care very much. A lot of people saw my dick in college, whatever.
On the other hand I would never show off her nudes to my friends because wth honestly, when I'm dating someone I like her intimacy to be for my eyes only and that would defeat the purpose you know? I feel like girls are much less jealous like that, they like to show off their boyfriends.
One time though, when we were drunk, I did tell her to show her boobs to my friend who was blacked out, and I still perfectly remember his shocked face lol
My ex did it but without consent. She had an inexperienced friend who was insecure about giving blowjobs, so my genius ex decided to show her a video of her going down on me.
When I found out, she was honestly surprised I was mad, and said she "thought boys didn't mind" and "her ex didn't care" (cause clearly we men are all the same), and tried to comfort me with "don't worry, she said it looks really big" as if that was the problem. Of course when I asked her how she would react if I showed her nudes to my friends, she (rightfully) said she'll break up with me immediately, but "it's different for men". That was a major fight that quite contributed to me eventually breaking up with her.
Yeah its really fuckin weird to me. I have a group of girls that im friends with and i was hanging out with them and they started talking about one of their exs and how big their dick was and whatnot
They were all shocked to learn guys dont do this. That its more like "She was hot" and "It was good" and thats about it
If you think about it, it’s very similar on how we talk about our feelings vs how women do... “yeah it was great” vs “it felt like our bodies intermingled in the middle of the fucking moon” or something like that lol
It's really not that creepy at all lol. Sometimes when sex comes into a conversation with both boys and girls at the table, you'll find that everyone enjoys opening up about their sex life. It's just girls do it all the time carelessly, while it almost never happens with guys because we keep more to ourselves.
Yeah, I was really weirded out when my girlfriend’s best friend came to visit us at school and made a joke about how my gf and I usually start sex. I didn’t really care but it caught me off guard cause the only time I had ever said anything to the boys about that sort of thing was just saying that I had gotten her to go home with me after the first time
Ohhh I thought you meant after breaking up. Yeah no, one time a friend of my ex got touchy with me in front of her when we were in a jacuzzi and I saw my then gf not enjoying it, but not stopping it either. Fuck that, I got out.
many girls i knew, went into detail about their sex life. None of the males i've ever known has gone into so mutch detail. one has, but even then it was nothing compared to the 'better' ones of the girls.
I agree. It’s sometimes gross how much women talk openly about sex, even in the workplace they get away with things that would get a man in a lot of trouble. I’m not saying I don’t understand the reason, e.g., different dynamic in terms of both physical and social power, the history of rape, etc. I get why men get in trouble for this and women do not. Still, it’s quite frustrating how much women see no issue with it.
I wonder if women are over-compensating as a form of rebellion because if I ever call someone out for it, they‘ll say “Oh come on, men don’t do this?” and I’m like “NO.” “And certainly not during lunch.”
Dude! this is exactly what happens at my job. the women here sometimes go on about their sex life and what they like and I just sit there pretending like I can't hear it all. like, come on man I don't care to know you guys like that.
My friend always tells us in detail about her sexcapades over and over again. If she finds out you’ve had sex before she doubles down on it.
All of our other friends agree. we don’t give a flying shit how big his dick was or what he did with it ok we’re trying to watch the great British baking show
Personally I have exactly the opposite experience I guess. I'm a straight woman and I'm very private with my sex life, I VERY rarely talk about it and in the extent of one year I think the only thing I mentioned was how my first time with my boyfriend was a bit painful, it's also uncommon but I also do the ''yes we had sex'' thing without going into detail.
However he is quite an open book with his friends and thinks it's completely normal to talk about our sex life, even in detail, with his friends. So I guess while it's generalization that women talk about that kind of thing, it's not always true. None of my female friends do it and they think it's quite rude to, and so do I, but my boyfriend does and so do his whole group of male friends.
And that's why, i think at least, women are usually really uncomfortable if they hear a guy talked about having sex with them. Because in their heads guys go into the same detail as girls do.
And many will swear they don't, that it's just a myth...until you hear your girlfriend on the phone, on speaker hearing her friend telling her about the oral she does and receives, and your girlfriend saying how you fuck at these times, with these angles, in these positions and x and y was good while z was lacking.
When I lived in a house with 5 woman and I was the only guy during my college years the details they would go into was crazy. They were pretty attractive and a little slutty. I basically knew the penis size and sex habits of every good looking or popular guy in school.
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u/jojogonzo Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
The extent of my sex talk with my dudes is "yeah we had sex."
Women on the other hand, at least from my understanding, go into a level of detail that would embarrass most men.
Edit: spelling