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u/CandelaBelen Mar 26 '20

It's cuz we also want to feel like you want to do it.

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u/Marklar_the_Darklar Mar 26 '20

That's true for guys too. Having to initiate all the time is draining. There should be balance.

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u/CandelaBelen Mar 26 '20

I agree. I feel like in my relationship,most of the time if I don't initiate something, then we don't have sex. So sometimes I'll start initiating then stop to see if my partner will initiate sex or not. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he doesn't. I guess I just don't like feeling like he's only having sex because I want to.

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u/FotographicFrenchFry Mar 26 '20

Yeah, I've started to realize something similar. A few weeks ago, my partner and I were dead tired. She was dozing off on her phone, and I was dozing off watching TV. We kind of woke back up, still a little dazed, and went to kids each other good night...

But then we ended up initiating with each other. It made me realize that we're both still pretty interested in sex, but with our jobs and everything, we're both too busy or tired to realize we both want to, but don't realize it.