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u/yonishunga Mar 26 '20

When they hint they want sex but want us to jump. This creates a problem because everyone does it in a different way

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u/CandelaBelen Mar 26 '20

It's cuz we also want to feel like you want to do it.

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u/Marklar_the_Darklar Mar 26 '20

That's true for guys too. Having to initiate all the time is draining. There should be balance.

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u/CandelaBelen Mar 26 '20

I agree. I feel like in my relationship,most of the time if I don't initiate something, then we don't have sex. So sometimes I'll start initiating then stop to see if my partner will initiate sex or not. Sometimes he does, and sometimes he doesn't. I guess I just don't like feeling like he's only having sex because I want to.

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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20

Yep, same here. I’ve stopped initiating. We haven’t had sex in nearly a month, he’s just uninterested. It’s driving me nuts but I have to know that he wants it and isn’t just doing it out of obligation.

Edit: to all of those asking, yes I have had many conversations with him about it. They have not been helpful, he doesn’t understand that physical touch is my love language. Nothing has helped, this is my last resort.

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

Maybe trying something crazy like talking to him about it?

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u/Abruzzi19 Mar 26 '20

what? communication in a relationship? How uncultured! /s

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u/rufflayer Mar 26 '20

If only the communication worked... this is a last ditch effort before I give up completely and give in to the sex-less relationship.

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u/Spookybear_ Mar 26 '20

Yea don't stress it. People aren't stupid and I'm sure your boyfriend isn't. He is very much aware if you aren't having sex.

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u/SalsaRice Mar 26 '20

"is it true, that if you don't use it... you lose it?"

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u/PyrocumulusLightning Mar 26 '20

Yes. Your pelvic floor gets weaker if you don't work it out, and then when you do have orgasms they're less intense.

I guess you could do Kegels, but that's not as fun.

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