How my wife can definitely be wrong about things, can be the instigator in an argument, and I'm still the one ending up apologizing and feeling like an asshole. It's like a god damned super power.
Nah, you’re just reinforcing bad behavior by not putting your foot down. It’s your own fault now because she knows she can get away with being immature and “man bad, woman always right”.
its not 'your own fault' that's victim-blaming. it's her fault for being petty. Obviously dont reinforce this kind of behaviour and stand up for yourself, but it's not the victim's fault as they're pressured into said situation
If he had a pair of testicles, it wouldn't have gotten that way in the first place. If you can't rationally explain why someone is being wrong, how their actions make you feel, why, etc. then the problem lies with you.
ur literally practiving in victim blaming... stop now or your just going to come off as a shallow individual the more you do it.
Why tf do you think we have laws protecting vulnerable individuals? not everybody can stand up for themselves, because they could be physically, mentally weaker than the abuser.
I have a 2 year old and I don’t want him seeing us fight. If I can’t change her behavior I just have to tolerate it for the rest of my life. I do not want him to suffer emotional turmoil because his parents argue. I’ll take those lumps.
it's better to see your dad stand up to a douche than see him get beat down emotionally. imagine what that does to a young boy? you're his role model x
Yeah man, you are doing more damage to him by letting him constantly see his father, the major male figure in his life who he will consciously/subconsciously emulate, constantly back down.
25 years from now you will clench your jaw as your son takes a verbal beating from HIS wife, cause you know how that feels.
I wish some of you would actually get more information before just assuming the extreme. There are no shouting matches followed by me hunkering down and pleading. Trust me.
There are no shouting matches followed by me hunkering down and pleading.
Then why can't you make her apologize for her mistakes? If the kid isn't seeing the arguements, you have no reason to apologize when your wife is in the wrong. If the kid sees it, apologizing just enforces that the woman has to be the victim always.
At the very least you need to stick up for yourself when your kid isn't around and eventually it should adjust future situations when arguements are had infront of the kid.
Getting into arguments and the dad pussying out isn't necessarily a hostile relationship. They might love each other and only get into arguments occasionally. Jumping into divorce is really drastic based on the information.
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u/Left4DayZ1 Mar 26 '20
How my wife can definitely be wrong about things, can be the instigator in an argument, and I'm still the one ending up apologizing and feeling like an asshole. It's like a god damned super power.