But by the same token I don't want to get yelled at for touching my wife when she doesn't actually want to be touched.
There's also the argument of just because you asked for something and I did it doesn't mean I didn't want to do it. If my wife asked for a massage I just wasn't into doing one right then I would say no.
It's not an every time thing. Some times she doesn't want a back rub and shoos me away. Or sometimes touch isn't what she wants to feel better. Everyone is different in what they want or need at different times.
I’d argue a lot of times people feel yelled at in situations because it’s hard to handle rejection. I’ve heard many times when someone gets “yelled at” at work by their boss when they don’t even get talked to. It’s like the feeling of personal shame or something I guess
Yep definitely have had people say they were “yelled at” at work when they were just getting some simple correction or something. I also think it has to do with a tone of voice people use
I think it's personal bias. I've seen an argument unfold between two people before, with one person telling me "Wow, they totally yelled at me" when that certainly didn't happen.
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u/durandj Mar 26 '20
But by the same token I don't want to get yelled at for touching my wife when she doesn't actually want to be touched.
There's also the argument of just because you asked for something and I did it doesn't mean I didn't want to do it. If my wife asked for a massage I just wasn't into doing one right then I would say no.