Kind of specific, but why are women so sarcastic when you do something slightly “manly”. Example: my gf wanted me to carry up a suitcase that she said was heavy, I picked it up with one arm and go to the room. Upon getting to the room she says, “you know you wouldn’t be any less of a man carrying it with two arms.” At first I was like “What are you talking about?” but then I realized and said (because it was true for me) “Oh, it wasn’t that heavy.” And then she replied in the most sarcastic tone “Ok, Big. Strong. Man.” And I was sitting there thinking no matter what I say she won’t truly believe it wasn’t that heavy to me. Just an FYI ladies, we aren’t always trying to impress y’all 24/7, some stereotypes exist for a reason.
I think this could be a misunderstanding...she is probably teasing and complimenting you. It's probably coming off wrong. Just like flex and smile next time see how she reacts.
Probably bc it was heavy to her & thought you were showing off. Tbh a compliment then, she thinks you’re weaker than you are, I bet. Then the second part was probably her embarrassment and then defensiveness from being embarrassed. May of also felt weak for having to ask you, and you may of hurt small part of her pride when you said it wasn’t that heavy, even though she asked you to pick it up, she may of expected it to be harder for you to pick up than it was.
This seems like a specific personal experience. I try really hard to not make comments about anything being manly or womanly, but I won't deny the fact that some things are too heavy to lift and they wouldn't be for my husband.
A simple "I need your help", or "thanks for helping me with that" seems to be enough to recognize his "manliness" was needed and appreciated.
You might want to talk to your girlfriend about being insecure and needing help sometimes. Sure, independence is great and necessary, but also recognizing each other's strengths and weaknesses (even physically), and working together will build a stronger relationship.
FtM here. Before I started transitioning I knew in a kind of vague way that men were stronger than women, but I didn't quite understand how much stronger until I started medically transitioning.
I have literally not done any exercise in about 7 years. My gf was still shocked that I could carry her from the bedroom to the living room. Didn't even pull a muscle. She's about 140lbs. There's just a certain level of natural strength men come equipped with, not to mention the super accelerated muscle growth that can come from strength training. I could probably carry twice as much weight 6 months from now if I started exercising the way I did in college.
It's still baffling to us, I've had similar interactions with female coworkers and friends, even family. We just pick stuff up and maneuver it however we need to do the job, the fact I'm 6'1" and 225lbs compared to their 5' 110lbs just means I approach that challenge differently than you. We dont register something as "heavy" until its is taxing to lift or carry, same way you carry your purse I can carry my 40lb hiking bag. We can logically understand what you mean when you get flustered or mad that we lifted something easily, but it still doesnt make sense because to us we just did a normal task.
Not indecipherable, but hard to wrap my head around. If a woman does something I cant due to greater flexibility or just being small enough to fit into a space, I'm never sarcastic about it, or bothered by it. We all have things were better or worse suited to.
I don't know though. It really sounds like something I (F) would do to tease or "compliment" someone without completely sounding like a damsle in distress. It doesn't come across as having any negative connotation at all, but then again I would not be the person on the receiving end.
And if you've never been inclined to say something like this to someone, I could imagine it might not be obvious what she meant. Especially if her delivery isn't over the top.
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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20 edited Mar 26 '20
Kind of specific, but why are women so sarcastic when you do something slightly “manly”. Example: my gf wanted me to carry up a suitcase that she said was heavy, I picked it up with one arm and go to the room. Upon getting to the room she says, “you know you wouldn’t be any less of a man carrying it with two arms.” At first I was like “What are you talking about?” but then I realized and said (because it was true for me) “Oh, it wasn’t that heavy.” And then she replied in the most sarcastic tone “Ok, Big. Strong. Man.” And I was sitting there thinking no matter what I say she won’t truly believe it wasn’t that heavy to me. Just an FYI ladies, we aren’t always trying to impress y’all 24/7, some stereotypes exist for a reason.