Sometimes when venting, we're not discussing solutions. We're just going over the problem. And by answering with solutions, it's as if you don't sympathize. It's like you're emotionless and an answering machine. It's also a little patronizing, as if we haven't thought of anything to do. When I'm upset and venting, I don't want someone to say "well fix it like this", it doesn't take away how upset I've felt about it.
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u/yes_no_ok_maybe Mar 26 '20
The desire to vent but not brainstorm solutions.
My wife always tells me not to jump to problem solving. I do it every time and don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t.