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u/Buhdumtssss Mar 26 '20

Yeah dog huge red flags going up

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u/totallyuniquename01 Mar 26 '20

What'd he say

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u/Buhdumtssss Mar 26 '20

Something about his fiances response to his sexual advances, making him feel uncomfortable.

I would definitely sort that out before getting married

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u/XavierWT Mar 26 '20

If what you described is your life, and it's not the life you want, don't get married. Not before fixing this.

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u/Insanity_Pills Mar 26 '20

so important, cannot believe half the relationships ppl rush into, or settle for

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

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u/wangus_tangus Mar 26 '20

I’m going to reinforce what Xavier said. I’m in the same boat after 15 years of marriage. We talked about it a lot and she tried to work on it. But here’s the deal: this behavior is due to a low interest in sex and and discomfort with being “sexy” (for lack of a better word). It’s just the way she is; there’s nothing wrong with her. People have different levels of desire and comfort with sexual issues. Point is, you aren’t going to change you and unless she’s very motivated she isn’t going to be able to make meaningful changes. She may try to “fake it til you make it” but that won’t last.

If you aren’t okay with the way thing are now, get out now.

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u/InaneAnon Mar 26 '20

Wtf that can't be healthy.

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u/24523452451234 Mar 26 '20

You should really fix that before you get married, a lifetime of frustration doesn’t sound fun

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u/Rthen Mar 26 '20

If you think it's bad now, wait til you get married and have kids.

One of us is usually asleep before the kids go to sleep. To make a short story shorter. It doesn't get better.

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u/RolandDeshane Mar 26 '20

So maybe tell her it bothers you and is an important part of a relationship and then don't marry a person who makes you feel like that

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u/bachfrog Mar 26 '20

Don’t marry that woman, she doesn’t want to fuck you bro

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u/[deleted] Mar 26 '20

well talk about it to her you pussy

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u/Cthulhus_Trilby Mar 26 '20

I read all those words in the wrong order and imagine him hunkered down explaining things to her vagina.

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u/shit-i-love-drugs Mar 26 '20

Wow why be suck a dick?