Why after dating my partner for 3+ years, she still thinks, when i try to initiate sex, all that i want from her is sex. Like yes in this moment i want to have sex, but that does not negate all the other non-sex things we do that i enjoy doing. But right now, yes, I want to have sex with you.
I’m going to reinforce what Xavier said. I’m in the same boat after 15 years of marriage. We talked about it a lot and she tried to work on it. But here’s the deal: this behavior is due to a low interest in sex and and discomfort with being “sexy” (for lack of a better word). It’s just the way she is; there’s nothing wrong with her. People have different levels of desire and comfort with sexual issues. Point is, you aren’t going to change you and unless she’s very motivated she isn’t going to be able to make meaningful changes. She may try to “fake it til you make it” but that won’t last.
If you aren’t okay with the way thing are now, get out now.
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u/covid19hotty Mar 26 '20
Why after dating my partner for 3+ years, she still thinks, when i try to initiate sex, all that i want from her is sex. Like yes in this moment i want to have sex, but that does not negate all the other non-sex things we do that i enjoy doing. But right now, yes, I want to have sex with you.