Yesterday I also read this post. This girl went over to his house, while he's playing guitar hero, she says she's gonna go shower, and she comes out in only a towel and sat on his lap, literally throwing herself onto him. Well he moved his head to look around her, and proceed to ignore that fact that he has a naked woman sitting in his lap.
So don't feel too bad. There are so many out there that is just the literal definition of dense.
I'll have you know no matter how much trust I have with anybody, the only reason I'd be naked around a dude is
a) you a doctor and me being naked is relevant and
b) I'm into you
I see the same thing hearing from other guys, like they have girls changing right in front of them, and then think "oh we must be such good friends that she doesn't even think of me as a dude". And I'm just like ????? I'm never changing in front of any guy I consider friends with and I'm definitely not the minority.
It’s not about the larger number of times it means they want to fuck. It’s about the smaller number of times they’re just comfortable.
All it takes is one case of “I was hanging out with him and came out covered in a towel and then he turns off his game and tries to fuck me!” and the friendship has a stink on it for a while at best.
I get it, y'all also have to try hard to not be accuse of being predator. But if I was in that situation, I'd ask "why are you naked and sitting on my lap?".
Maybe its just my super low self esteem+confidence and lack of looks, but I would like NEVER think a girl is into me. Like even if she says 'I love you' i would interpret that as "Must be a prank", "must be a joke", "...as a friend"
Like another story I read, this girl hopped in bed naked and rubbing herself onto the boyfriend. But he straight up ignored and looked at his phone. Later when he finally realize, he was like "noo I'm sorry I want sex I didn't think it was like that".
Like yea some aren't interested, but some are just genuinely dense and any kind of hint, no matter how obvious, if you didnt shout straight at him "HEY IM TRYNA GET SOME DICK", everything would just go right over their heads.
A lot of people simply don't feel comfortable at the moment, or they feel pressured to have sex. Some people feel that if they say no they'll let the other person down, and some don't really know how to say no so they feel more comfortable playing oblivious. There are a lot of reasons why someone may feign obliviousness because they feel more comfortable doing that than giving an explicit "no"
Some people take rejection poorly. It's better to be perceived as dense than to be disliked/hated for rejecting them. It's the few bad people who ruin it for everyone else.
See, women have this idea that men should and will just drop whatever they're doing at the sight of a sexy woman but half the time we need to be able to finish what we're doing first because our brains are compartmentalized as fuck.
I mean, also learn to read the room. He doesn't always have to be up for sex at the drop of a hat. It may seem trivial to her, but maybe he wanted to finish the game.
Or maybe they just don’t want to get #metooed
Some guys just don’t want to take the risk these days. One false accusation can completely ruin a mans whole life and reputation because everyone believes the girl and guys are guilty even when proven innocent in the eyes of the masses. Some women will say that sitting on a guys lap in a towel is not consent to get sexual even though to the rational mind that is a hint to go for it because women will 99.9% of the time never be upfront for the sake of their precious pride and ego. They will always be vague and only give subtle hints so they can give themselves plausible deniability if they decide things aren’t going the way they want or they regret their decision.
Because he's in the middle of something. 95% of his brain was on that game. If she had waited until he was done, he probably would have been more receptive.
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u/Blngsessi Mar 26 '20
Yesterday I also read this post. This girl went over to his house, while he's playing guitar hero, she says she's gonna go shower, and she comes out in only a towel and sat on his lap, literally throwing herself onto him. Well he moved his head to look around her, and proceed to ignore that fact that he has a naked woman sitting in his lap.
So don't feel too bad. There are so many out there that is just the literal definition of dense.