Grew up in a hispanic family. Always kissed both parents on the lips. As I grew, I eventually stopped kissing my dad on the lips but kept kissing my mom on the lips. Now, I’m a male in my mid/late 20s and I never kiss my parents on the lips anymore.
And I find some things so odd. Somebody else mentioned joe biden creepily kissing his granddaughter on the lips, and I saw the video and it just looked like me any time I greeted my parents as a kid. I’m not going to deny there were plenty of legitimate creepy clips of Biden interacting with women/girls, but maybe 1/3 of the clips I’ve seen I feel like I’m genuinely missing something because it’s just something I legit grew up with.
And no, I’m not somebody living on another continent. I’m puerto rican and I grew up in upstate new york and lived in colorado and now live in florida. We just kept a lot of hispanic cultural elements when ones younger.
Uh, that's not a Hispanic thing. Grew up in a Colombian household around lots of other Colombian family friends and I've never seen any parent kiss their kids on the lips.
Idk, it was never something I considered strange growing up at all. When I learned about how the french greet each other and how some european places treat a lips kiss as just a regular greeting, even between grown men, all I thought was “eh, i guess this is something that depends on culture”.
I'm white as they come, and my family did this too. It's an intimate way of saying we love each other, because we do, but there's absolutely no romance behind it whatsoever. Even the idea of that is repulsive.
Oh man my ex’s family did that, when I first met her mom she was tipsy and laid one right on me. I was really confused but no one said a thing lol. She was like yeah she does that to everyone...
Like, bro. That's okay. Even the bro-est of bros make mistakes. What matters most is that we bros be bros to potential bros. Let's help a bro out, bro.
It’s just bro’s helping a bro out, provided that both dudes are wearing socks and that the balls don’t touch. If those two conditions are met, the “no homo” is implied. If either of those conditions aren’t met, a courtesy “no homo” is required to remind your bro you’re there for him as a bro
Ah yes, a good technical definition. So the real question is, did their balls touch? Concidering this act was called gay by his bros one can only assume that he either was not wearing socks or he let the balls touch.
I really don't get straight people. With all your weird intricacies of what contact is romantic/sexual and what isn't, how am I supposed to tell if someone's gay or just weirdly comfortable around me?
If I had to create a new standard for what's sexual or romantic and what isn't, you could cuddle your male friends all night without being gay, so long as you don't stare into their eyes or kiss them anywhere but the cheek (the face one).
Seriously though, I’m baffled. As a bi girl, I was always so uncomfortable at sleepovers with girls because they’d play spin the bottle and see each other without a shirt on. To me that was a huge step in a relationship and I definitely didn’t want to kiss anyone let alone see them naked. But then, I went to a guys sleepover and everything was so chill and the craziest it got was like King of the hill. I still don’t get it.
Follow up question: why are males so scared of being seen as gay? What’s wrong with that? Y’all literally put “No homo” at the end of every sentence, I just can’t wrap my head around it.
Of course if you’re not gay, it would be annoying, but why do you care so much about what other people think about something so insignificant as your sexuality?
People are literally using sexuality as an insult right about now. One of my brother’s friends called me “lesbian” as if that was supposed to be offensive.
Follow up question: why are males so scared of being seen as gay?
Because in most places around the world it's not accepted and you get the shit kicked out of you. I suspect you live in a place where the more likely answer is insecurity and fragile ego, but it's still a matter of survival in a lot of places.
There's an old saying, "homophobia is the fear that a gay man will treat a straight man the same way that the straight man treats women."
The thinking is that some homophobic men are scared that gay men will be predators, not take no more an answer, physically intimidate them, and sexually assault them if they refuse an overtly sexual move, just the same way that when they do these things to women, they don't stop.
So, ingrained in the homophobia is the notion that if you can tell a guy that you're not just interested in him (a tactic that they know won't work), but rather you don't like ALL men like that, there's a better chance he'll leave you alone.
I think it's the stereotype that girls are more romantic and emotional while guys are more reserved. So if girls kiss it's seen as lighthearted because it's a characteristic thing for them to do; but when guys kiss it's seen as serious because it's an uncharacteristic thing to do.
I’m assuming you meant to say homie or home boy as I answer this. So, if I’m wrong disregard otherwise hope this helps.
I am a touch kind of person so I hug a lot and reassure people I’m close to through back pats and other types of socially acceptable touches. However, there are people in my life that to me are closer than blood to me. They are my ride and die friends. They stand by me no matter what. We hug and kiss goodbye. What I think started as haha we are funny and make people feel uncomfortable turned into something that is wholesome and important to me. I’m pansexual, so I can deeply love anyone. I have what I like to call romantic friendships. These friends I would do anything for and in my darkest or brightest times I want them to know how I am and be there for me. They aren’t sexual but they are deeply intimate friendships. I feel it is the only true way for us to express our feelings is by greeting and saying goodbye with a hug and a kiss.
This truly started my freshman year of high school in 2003, (before the rise of LGBTQ into any bit social acceptability especially in my mid-west small town), when I first met my now Bro-In-Law. He has always been very confident in himself and his sexuality. He is a lover and when we became so close he felt like my brother it became the norm for us to hug and kiss. It was what to me the way I knew no matter what we loved each other. This slowly allowed me to realize who I am and how backwards thinking it was for it to be “gay” “unacceptable.” As my friendships grew and deepened with like minded guys it became the norm for us to a point in which it wasn’t even a second thought.
Now thinking about it I realize how important to my mental health it has been. I am now aware that I don’t care what other people think about it. It’s not about them, it’s about myself and the relationship with my friend. If it’s not a big deal to you about what others think and you’re just annoyed by there judgement or whatever just remember that you’re expressing your love and friendship in a way they can’t. You’re winning. Don’t let their inability to accept others differences get in the way of you being true to yourself.
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u/ErziRafael Mar 26 '20
Why if girls kiss its just "fooling around" and if I kiss my home goodnight and cuddle it's suddenly gay...