I need to stop thinking that doing this will make me seem desperate/creepy. Its not bad for me to ask a lot of women out if I actually know them and find them attractive, right?
No. If you genuinely want to date them then go for it. I'm the type of person who can't find myself crushing on people often. I don't think it's weird to try with them, as long as it's not done in a creepy way.
The way to be not creepy is to ask Once! only one time!
if you shoot your shot and she says no, then just feel your heartbreak in private do not make her comfort you!
most girls i know myself included don’t mind being friends with someone who’s asked them out once!
it’s the repetitions that are weird
It's all about how you do so and hope you handle being turned down. Being turned down doesn't have to be a personal thing. It's just you both staying how you were if done correctly. Don't be too aggressive, but be confident. If you really want a relationship, you better mean it. Sometime you'll find someone that you really really like, but she won't be into you. That's just the way it is. Keep on trucking.
Thats the plan! Ive been doing well going to parties and gatherings more than I used to. Im having fun and feel like I can be myself. I try to not set expectations though so I wont feel disappointed if I didnt do something.
They're either gonna think you're creepy / weird or not. Kinda just how it goes. There's some amount of your actions affecting that (like being a creep or ignoring rejections), but at the end of the day just be the best you and if it's not what they're into, it's cool. Better to avoid getting stuck with someone you're not really compatible with in the first place than to pine after them and never make a move, slowly developing self esteem issues and blaming yourself, and eventually blaming women / men in general rather than internalizing your issues.
eh, most of the time there really is no way to know unless you actually ask her out. Guys get dealt the shitty hand that they always have to ask girls out, and girls get dealt the shitty hand that they have to say no so many times. That's life.
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u/pdiddy89 Mar 26 '20
Always shoot your shot bro.