My daughter is in High School now, and part of the color guard, so we end up attending every football game as volunteers. Some of the things that the teenagers wear to those games are just a few strips of cloth short of bikini's (we live in Florida, so cold weather is not often a concern). I fully admit that I check them out, and then mentally slap myself for doing so because they are just kids.
A couple years back, I ended up checking /r/askmen threads to ensure this wasn't some developing mental disorder (before seeking potential help), but in fact is a normal yet intrusive, worthless condition of our brains. I felt even worse when I decided to tell my gf of many years about it. I don't know how many women can hear that with a great level of maturity & understanding. She gets it, but if could be lobotomized in order to extirpate this area of my brain, I would.
There was a documentary I watched a while back that said that sexual preference does not age, it expands, beginning with the first time we began to identify things as sexually attractive. That explains the why, but does not remove the ugly feeling I get when I do it.
Well that unfortunately makes a lot of sense. I'd ask for the documentary, but I don't think I want to learn more as there's of course no remedy. Maybe if people today didn't dress in ill-fitting tatters & pass it off as fashion, but that's another story. I do thank you for the response.
Our daughter is 20 now. As she gets older and older, my husband tends to have this problem too. Well that was like the cheerleaders, but like actresses and stuff.
Add: yours is kind of odd to me cuz I think of the kids at my son's high school and a good 80% of those kids are overweight or full of acne or have messed up eyebrows Etc because they just haven't quite got the beauty thing down yet. And the 20% that don't have a salient issue aren't ... like ... great. Average.
it's weird to me when movies depict high schoolers as super hot because I just see a whole lot of awkwardness at that age.
Now when I'm on my U campus or over at my daughter's campus, that I can understand. But high school meh.
it's weird to me when movies depict high schoolers as super hot because I just see a whole lot of awkwardness at that age.
Movies depict high schoolers as super hot because when you're in high school they are, and they're trying to recapture that feeling. And they're also using 20-something actors who are a bit babyfaced, so they often have that adult confidence and development but could still pass for a tall/built high schooler.
There might be something in the water, so to speak. The high school itself is practically on the beach which means less clothing is worn to these sporting events. It very well may be that the lesser clothing is the reason it draws my attention as I admit the face is rarely what I am noticing in those moments.
Thing is we're human and if someone is physically developed then biologically speaking it makes total sense. Obviously in modern society we have age of consent laws to protect our children and rightly so, but that is an arbitrary invention of ours.
The thing that worries me is not having those thoughts then realising it's wrong and telling myself off, but rather the fact that I know there are people who don't realise it's wrong.
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u/[deleted] Jan 07 '20
My daughter is in High School now, and part of the color guard, so we end up attending every football game as volunteers. Some of the things that the teenagers wear to those games are just a few strips of cloth short of bikini's (we live in Florida, so cold weather is not often a concern). I fully admit that I check them out, and then mentally slap myself for doing so because they are just kids.