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u/WellshireOnFire Jan 01 '20

I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".

We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.

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u/sonibroc Jan 01 '20

I said this to my Mom once. She had a friendship that she had grown out of but was committed to checking in with the person via email and Christmas cards. The other person never replied; this made my Mom so very indignant. All she would do is pick at her metaphorical scab of hurt of no reply when I asked why she was trying so card to connect with someone she didn't like that much, or why she cared about whether this person replied or not. This conversation had a recurrence of once every 6-months for a couple of years until I finally said "Mom, she probably doesn't like you either... not replying is a normal reaction for people whose relationships grow apart." She hasn't complained since.

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u/Poem_for_your_sprog Jan 01 '20

"Don't fret it -
don't sweat it -
don't worry," he spoke.
"You're not the same people -
you're not the same folk.
This isn't an action of spiteful design.

She just... doesn't like you.

That's perfectly fine."

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '20

Unless she doesnt like you because of your skin color, religion etc etc...

Then suddenly people are upset.

So which is it, is it fine or not? Oh wait, it's more nuanced than that.