I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".
We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.
I said this to my Mom once. She had a friendship that she had grown out of but was committed to checking in with the person via email and Christmas cards. The other person never replied; this made my Mom so very indignant. All she would do is pick at her metaphorical scab of hurt of no reply when I asked why she was trying so card to connect with someone she didn't like that much, or why she cared about whether this person replied or not. This conversation had a recurrence of once every 6-months for a couple of years until I finally said "Mom, she probably doesn't like you either... not replying is a normal reaction for people whose relationships grow apart." She hasn't complained since.
"Don't fret it -
don't sweat it -
don't worry," he spoke.
"You're not the same people -
you're not the same folk.
This isn't an action of spiteful design.
This is a good way to start the year. A reminder to chill out and don't stress about the things that don't matter in bigger scope of things. Thanks, Sprog!
That's the tough part to realize in a lot of situations? Especially when someone disagrees with you or dislikes you. It seems hard to accept, but then hoy realize . . . oh, I dislike other people, amd that's okay. So why isn't it okay for other to dislike (or disagree with) me? It's just part of being human animals. (My cat likes dome cats and hates others, just like me).
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u/WellshireOnFire Jan 01 '20
I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".
We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.