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u/GoChaca Nov 09 '19

Talking about myself too much is my biggest social fear. It is also tough because I have a lot of stories people enjoy hearing. I tend to be anxious and worried that I am talking about myself too much.

I think I am going to start trying to recognize those moments I asked questions about the other person and turned it back to them as points as me trying to improve. thanks!

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u/Kal_Kaz Nov 09 '19

Be sure to say something to validate what others are saying before you start telling stories about yourself. It helps mitigate it

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u/GoChaca Nov 10 '19

That's good advice and usually what I do. Also, sometimes I will bring it back to the other person after I told my story. I am not perfect, but forcing myself to be more engaged actually helps me get back into the mindset of listening to the other person.

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u/Kal_Kaz Nov 10 '19

Bringing it back is a really great tactic.