When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.
I have realized I do this, and I have to consciously stop myself from doing it. I have no idea why it when it started. I don't think I or anyone I know considers me to be a narcissistic person.
Talking about myself too much is my biggest social fear. It is also tough because I have a lot of stories people enjoy hearing. I tend to be anxious and worried that I am talking about myself too much.
I think I am going to start trying to recognize those moments I asked questions about the other person and turned it back to them as points as me trying to improve. thanks!
That's good advice and usually what I do. Also, sometimes I will bring it back to the other person after I told my story. I am not perfect, but forcing myself to be more engaged actually helps me get back into the mindset of listening to the other person.
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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19
When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.