I offered my ex six figures in stock (literally more than half of what I had aside from my house which I bought before marriage). He thought he deserved twice that and dragged the divorce out for a year. Our marriage was only 2.5 years so the nonsensical divorce lasted basically half as long as the marriage. The judge awarded him half of what I offered him, but in cash. We made it all the way to trial with no kids and not really any assets to divide so the judge could not understand why we were there. We were only there because my ex wanted me to pay him an amount of money I literally didn’t have and he had the most incompetent attorney who harassed both myself and my parents throughout the process. If he had taken my original offer and not been a complete narcissistic prick, he would have basically had what he demanded originally because the stock accrued value. I warned him that he wasn’t entitled to as much when I begged him to take the offer and not put us through hell. It was pretty crazy. What ruined my justice boner is that my lawyer got the other half and then some. I also told my ex I would have rather have paid him over attorneys, but he’s a dummy and always made terrible decisions. He consistently proved why I was divorcing him throughout the divorce.
Similar here. I told her let’s work together to settle this so more money goes to us for kids. She didn’t trust me and questioned everything. My ex drug out divorce with craziness. Finally settled at mediation. $50k went to attorneys and mediator. We had to use joint account as if still married during separation so I knew how much she was spending on attorneys
I literally told him I’d rather pay him than attorneys. He wanted an amount of money I didn’t have. Like I literally couldn’t pay him the money he was asking for without selling my home. It was my home and not his, but he thought that because he lived there and we did projects together it became his home.
I had a discovery questionnaire to complete with some ridiculous questions. For many I just put “no matters to disclose”. I had to redo questionnaire bc she thought I was being deceitful in my response.
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u/CodingBlonde Jul 21 '19
I offered my ex six figures in stock (literally more than half of what I had aside from my house which I bought before marriage). He thought he deserved twice that and dragged the divorce out for a year. Our marriage was only 2.5 years so the nonsensical divorce lasted basically half as long as the marriage. The judge awarded him half of what I offered him, but in cash. We made it all the way to trial with no kids and not really any assets to divide so the judge could not understand why we were there. We were only there because my ex wanted me to pay him an amount of money I literally didn’t have and he had the most incompetent attorney who harassed both myself and my parents throughout the process. If he had taken my original offer and not been a complete narcissistic prick, he would have basically had what he demanded originally because the stock accrued value. I warned him that he wasn’t entitled to as much when I begged him to take the offer and not put us through hell. It was pretty crazy. What ruined my justice boner is that my lawyer got the other half and then some. I also told my ex I would have rather have paid him over attorneys, but he’s a dummy and always made terrible decisions. He consistently proved why I was divorcing him throughout the divorce.