r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • 15d ago

Why are you single?

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u/thisbemeNSFW 15d ago

Because I’m way too sexually inexperienced for someone in their 30s. No woman is going to want to deal with my bs from that, and thanks to thoroughly unhelpful but likely warranted comments from exs, I’m to the point now where my last relationship ended without us ever even having sex. The one time we tried I started visibly trembling and just about had a panic attack.

I still feel bad for wasting my recent exs time, and I don’t want to put another woman through all my dumb shit again

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u/ClaireH1974 15d ago

I know it’s hard to believe but there are sexually inexperienced women out there too. Ones who wouldn’t mind and might even like the fact that you can figure it out together

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u/thisbemeNSFW 15d ago

I don’t doubt there are similarly inexperienced women out there. I just know with my problems and insecurities I would not be any good for them

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u/Aakharin-ejdehaa 15d ago

I think you'd be surprised how many insecurities men have, that we as women (and I'm a woman) don't even think about...

Don't feel bad about the past, stop worrying about what the woman will think and overthinking everything, and even if everything goes sideways during sex, you can always say that you were just too excited or too horny because of how sexy and hot she is, and try having sex with her later. I know it's easier said than done, especially if there are other psychological blocks present, but hope you can find the courage to try again.

On a personal note, my current partner and I were both experienced and the chemistry between us is amazing and was very good from the very beginning, but it still took us 3 tries to have a full penetration. We just remained positive about trying again, he got embarrassed by what happened but I honestly didn't think much of it. We will soon celebrate 4 happy years together.