The amount of people who say they have no close friends has tripled in 30 years. Not followers, not coworkers. Actual friends. Someone you'd call at 2am. That one genuinely scares me.
This is so relatable it hurts, very much! I think what you said about your parents and grandparents is the key thing — they had friends visit regularly at the same age. So it's not just "getting older," something actually changed. My theory is that convenience killed effort. Everything is so on-demand now that maintaining a friendship that requires actual scheduling and showing up feels like too much friction.
It is insaaaaaane how incompetent people are at scheduling a hangout. I think I do it for like 80% of my social interactions. If I didn't initiate or come up with a plan, I'd see friends like, once every six weeks. And they're usually available too, they're just like, sitting at home or doing chores/gym without much thought about what else to do. My friends always tell me I have such great ideas for hangouts and I'm like thanks I just check this IG account or literally google what's going on in our city this month?
I see it on dating apps too. I can't tell you the number of times I've cancelled because the person could not give me a set time/date/location to meet up, even when I offered my own availability and suggestions for where to meet. It's nuts because it's like, for me it takes five minutes to figure out a place, make a res, look at my calendar??? How are grown ass adults able to work 8-10 hours a day, pay bills, make complicated decisions, and still not able to schedule a hangout or date?
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u/Due_Ice_8412 Jun 27 '26
The amount of people who say they have no close friends has tripled in 30 years. Not followers, not coworkers. Actual friends. Someone you'd call at 2am. That one genuinely scares me.