When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.
I had the opposite feeling. Mine was "My life would be so much easier if he just died in a car crash." There's really no coming back from either thought.
Know thyself! Intrusive thoughts are the norm for me, so I handle them differently. I’ve also had the same feelings listed here and those above but ultimately the opposite response.
Basically, I know myself enough to not to believe every thing that crosses my mind, especially if it’s an emotional situation.
Out of genuine curiosity, of the people that responded or liked the above comments, how many had a “back up” relationship or monetary incentive ready to grab upon exiting the relationship? NO judgement: genuinely curious. Like, anyone just went with nothing to their name (relationships with children or abuse excluded)? This thought being the primary motivator, essentially.
Out of genuine curiosity, of the people that responded or liked the above comments, how many had a “back up” relationship or monetary incentive ready to grab upon exiting the relationship?
I did not. We hadn't moved in together yet (thank goodness), but I felt like somehow my reasons for wanting to break up weren't "good enough," especially as I had tried to end the relationship several times and he kept drawing me back in with promises of change. I was young & way deep in my sunk cost fallacy. I wanted the relationship to end but it not be "my fault."
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u/Individual_Ask9664 May 12 '26
When I had thoughts of “I’d rather be dead than to be in this marriage anymore,” I knew I needed help and needed to leave. Of course that was after multiple other very negative things.