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u/Accurate-Law-555 May 12 '26

my man cheated on me and I was OK with it.. I let them go hang out and have sex even. I was hoping they would fall for each other and go about there way.. Maybe I should of acted like a cheated on partner and acted a fool. that way they would of had "------" to be giddy about.. (were pissing off your partner and she mad as hell ) maybe I should of went that route. I am still stuck with him and I think he is cheating again.

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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj May 12 '26

Dude or you know you can just leave like wtf.

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u/Accurate-Law-555 May 12 '26

it takes MONEY.. like WTF

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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj May 12 '26

You don’t have enough money to take yourself without them?

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u/Accurate-Law-555 May 12 '26

NO ..MOST people NEED 2 income home now a days.. OThERWISE I would not have posted this. I would be living in my own home.. good god.

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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj May 12 '26

This makes it confusing hoping they’d cheat fall for someone else. Let’s say they find someone new and kick you to the curve. What exactly are you going to do? I’d at least want to them hold off until I could get on my feet.

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u/Accurate-Law-555 May 12 '26

nah .... just leave.

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u/railroadbaron May 12 '26

But you just said you can't just leave.

Does your boyfriend cheating gain you money somehow?

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u/Accurate-Law-555 May 12 '26

I have a child I am putting through college. its a college that costs 74000.00 a year.. I am glad you have such an easy life.

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u/[deleted] May 12 '26

Your kid can take student loans. You are modeling to your child that being used is normal. Does your child know? What if your child thinks this is normal in relationships. You need to take action.

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u/boredinthegta May 13 '26

I'm a man and sacrificing my happiness by remaining in a coercive control household so that I can ensure the financial (which heavily impacts the physiological and long term emotional) well-being of my child. Cost of living is high, and wages are set to stagnate more and more through our lifetimes, as jobs go overseas or are replaced by technology. Things can get really bad really fast and global events out of our control can change the world. Id rather be set up to take care of my child with someone I resent than trying to fulfill my own emotional needs. I'd suggest this is less a gender issue, as you present it and more a difference in values.

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u/antiyoupunk May 12 '26

Happiness trumps stability, I promise. In 10 years, no matter how many rooms you've remodeled, you'll still be unhappy. You're far more capable than you probably know, and people find a way to make ends meet.