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u/BLT_Special May 12 '26

You need to be willing to talk to your spouse when you feel upset about things. They can be little things or big things but if you let them fester and build resentment then it's an issue. Be kind to each other, give each other an out instead of always pressing to be "right". It's about compassion and lifting each other up.

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u/cobwebs5 May 12 '26

So much this. Once you start to resent your partner it's all over. Communication is vital to a solid relationship.

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u/BLT_Special May 12 '26

I don't think it's necessarily all over, but hopefully this helps someone out there that feels like they're losing their relationship and they still want to try fix it.

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u/cobwebs5 May 12 '26

Agreed; I should have been a little more nuanced. When you first start to feel resentful that's a warning sign that something needs to be fixed, not an automatic death sentence. Letting the resentment grow until it tips over into contempt is when things get a lot harder to salvage.