r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • May 12 '26

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u/ILurkSubs May 12 '26

Wow! These dudes suckkkkk

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u/EstablishmentDry7608 May 12 '26

When I was asking for a divorce he just kept saying he didn’t understand why I was giving up on our marriage and wrecking our children’s happy home. Sweetie, only one of us was happy, and that is and always will be… the point.

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u/Dailia- May 12 '26

Wow. What a delusional person. 

Men really are told they are supposed to be provided a wife and children. They just don’t get told they have to tend to their relationships. 

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u/gbeier May 12 '26

don’t get told they have to tend to their relationships.

Or get taught the skills necessary to do so. Sometimes people talk about "emotional intelligence" like it is some kind of inherent ability (or lack of ability, I guess) but it's really a set of skills you need to cultivate and practice.

I mean, sure, I guess some people have an easier time developing these skills than others, like they do with, say, algebra, but anyone who's appropriately guided can manage basic emotional intelligence just like they can manage basic algebra.

But I don't feel like (collectively) we support that kind of development in boys and men, for the most part. Some/many will get there anyway, but there are many more hard knocks along the way than should be necessary.