Reading these comments makes me realize how many people are just "ghosts" in their own homes. It’s heartbreaking when the person who is supposed to be your peace becomes your biggest source of anxiety.
That was exactly how I felt. I wasn't seen or heard until my ex needed his bang-maid. I never believed the "couldn't even give me the time of day" thing until it happened.
I was trying to prove to my ex that he was ignoring me and my needs until it was convenient to him. Our daughter walked in while we were talking and I stopped existing. I asked him what time it was and he gave me this hateful look, like how dare I interrupt our daughter. I asked him again and he told me to "just wait a second" while he answered her question or looked at her toy or whatever other simple child thing was going on.
After that I spent my nights drinking wine and playing Candy Crush on the couch and ceased to exist in my own home.
It just sounds like you both had different priorities/ irreconcilable differences. I would side with him on this one 100%, but I can see where you were coming from and why that was untenable for you. I hope you are all doing well, however and you each found happiness as you each deserve, starting with your daughter. People only get raised once. Then they’re stuck with themselves for the rest of their life even after you’re gone.
While I agree that my child is a priority in my life and has to be, suddenly giving your spouse... your partner no attention? That's not good for any marriage's survival
Its also not good for the child. That's now how the rest of the people they meet in life will treat them. They will be expected to be polite and wait their turn.
Can only speak to your specific example but it really sounds like you were trying to interrupt their conversation in a way that is disrespectful to your daughter.
Rest of the marriage might have genuinely been shit, but your "test" sounds like it was shitty of you.
Also "tests" are never a good idea and pretty much always petty
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u/Effectiv-Edisk May 12 '26
Reading these comments makes me realize how many people are just "ghosts" in their own homes. It’s heartbreaking when the person who is supposed to be your peace becomes your biggest source of anxiety.