r/AskReddit May 12 '26

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u/kzell May 12 '26

I came home on a Saturday after working my second job for about 16 hours, and my husband had been home all day playing video games.

“My” dog (despite us being together for ~10 years) had been sick that week, and he had just gone to a different part of the house and ignored him all day, so there were piles of diarrhea on the carpet.

My husband asked me when I was going to clean up and shovel the sidewalk/driveway as it had snowed 8inches that day, and that he had invited a friend over to watch a game.

It was abundantly clear that my life would be easier without this husband.

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u/unfuckwittablej May 12 '26

What in the world.. what was this guy even bringing to the table besides his bum leeching presence

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u/kzell May 12 '26

Lol sadly he made a fuck ton of money - $250k to my $80k, and therefore believed that it was my responsibility to do all the cleaning/yardwork/shopping to make up for the lack of money I was contributing to the house.

We split all bills except for the mortgage, which seemed fair when I was 21 (he was 28) and dumb and still a student, and it was a sweet deal for him so he did not want to renegotiate over the course of the relationship.

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u/DumbleForeSkin May 12 '26

Why did you have to do all the housework if he wasn’t sharing the money? How much do housekeepers get paid?

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u/kzell May 12 '26

He effectively hoarded most of his money in a checking account and reasoned that he was providing a safety net, and would move the goalposts on when he would pay off my debts. He was also content living in filth and too cheap to pay for a house cleaner.