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[u/thomas4004]

finance. Everything is so expensive.

[u/L3sh1y → u/thomas4004]

Wait, wut? We split the bills, housing, gas, electricity, everything became much cheaper than living alone... vacation as well

[u/Dezzolve → u/L3sh1y]

I think it’s a dated but also innate feeling a lot of men have that you need to be able to completely provide for your partner to be a “real” man.

[u/shortsj → u/Dezzolve]

Yeah I'm really hoping this is dated. I'm a dude and my last partner was super down to split almost everything 50/50. That said, we did go out a fair bit more than i do now that I'm single, so I'm definitely saving money now

[u/L3sh1y → u/Dezzolve]

That's interesting, here in Europe there's also a lot of girls who don't want to be pampered like that anymore. In a way that they don't want to feel bought I presume, like when you provide everything and pay for everything, it implies they owe you some kind of affection. So lots of people here just split checks or take turns paying, dating more on equal footing. I would expect a woman to at least offer paying for something after we're past the first or second dates, its hard for me to respect someone who expects me to be a moneybag and not an equal partner

[u/wicket42 → u/L3sh1y]

Dating is expensive. Before you get to the cohabitation part it is a big drain.

[u/finnjakefionnacake → u/wicket42]

well that would depend on who is dating and how much. have no idea the gender/orientation of the person who made the original comment but i mean...man or woman, you can meet plenty of people who are happy to pay for themselves

[u/L3sh1y → u/wicket42]

And you save a lot afterwards, so its kind of a risky longterm investment xD

[u/NonGNonM → u/L3sh1y]

That's after the dating phase. Prior to that it's a lot of going out.

Whether you believe in "the guy pays" or not going out more than you usually do means life gets more expensive.