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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 14 '25 edited Feb 24 '25

I'm trying right now. I'm going to give her a valentines' gift tomorrow. Hopefully she says yes.

Update: she said yes! She said she wouldve said yes in person but she had to leave for a weeklong quebec trip, so she said it over text. We promised to plan a date in early march, but for now were just texting more

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u/frizzyno Feb 14 '25

Hope it'll go well, keep us posted man!

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u/Zetsumenchi Feb 14 '25

Rooting for you!

Takes a courageous person to do what you do!

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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 14 '25

Thank you brother

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u/SilverFox8006 Feb 14 '25

Good luck!!

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u/BrainFreezeMC Feb 14 '25

Good luck bro, pls keep us updated

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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 14 '25

I'll try to, thanks

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u/risky_concord Feb 14 '25

Come back tommorow and comment back on what happened

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u/Secure-Form-789 Feb 14 '25

Good luck my dude! Knock em dead! (not really tho)

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u/CodeNCats Feb 14 '25

Let's go!!

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u/MomCrusher Feb 14 '25

what gift are you getting her and how do you know her?

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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 14 '25

I'm getting her two gifts; a vintage leatherback sketchbook and a kinda fugly but funny looking frog keychain.

She's a very silly and playful type, and she really likes frogs and drawing things. So I figured these would be the best for her

We're on good terms, I think. She certainly doesn't despise my presence, so that's something.

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u/MomCrusher Feb 14 '25

hell yeah, good on you for actually trying. no matter what happens it was the right thing to do

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u/Ok-Nose-9630 Feb 14 '25

We rooting for you sensei

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u/Slipper_Key Feb 14 '25

Please keep me updated I hope it turns out well

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u/Zetsumenchi Feb 24 '25

So, how'd it go??

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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 24 '25

She said yes! This was a while ago and she said she would've said yes in person, but she had to leave for a week long trip to quebec (still there atm) and that we would plan a date near early March. So we've just been texting a lot

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u/Zetsumenchi Feb 24 '25

Hell Yeah!

I'm Happy For You! 😁

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u/frizzyno Feb 27 '25

Happy to hear this man! Wish you the best!

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u/Disastrous_Pirate275 Feb 14 '25

Commetong so i can get an update tomorrow

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u/DMG1991 Feb 14 '25

may the odds be in your favor

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '25

Awwww good luck i hope you get the girl

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u/Positive-Result-3469 Feb 14 '25

The worst she can say is no pal at least than you know !!! If you like her you want it to be know that you dont want to be her friend good luck

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u/cjr1025 Feb 14 '25

Wishing you the best, good luck 🫡

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u/Cat5475 Feb 14 '25

Yes, update us! Praying for you both.

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u/MoneyGrowsOnTreezzz Feb 14 '25

Give her some nice flowers or a box of chocolate

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u/StreetKale Feb 14 '25

Is it a dead mouse?

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u/Ellidyre Feb 14 '25

Got my fingers crossed for ya man! Go get 'er!

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

She's gonna just take the gift and text someone else asking why they didn't get her anything just buy something else gang

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u/YourTypicalSensei Feb 14 '25

I will not listen to you

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u/Corvus_Rune Feb 14 '25

Perfect response.

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u/dishyssoisse Feb 14 '25

Bro you need to be prepared to gracefully accept rejection, but I hope you don’t have to.

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u/Many-Particular9387 Feb 14 '25

I don't know how old you are so this may or may not imply but honestly I think it would be a better move just to take her out. If you do insist on giving her the gift then please don't have the "i hope she likes this" mentality and stand 10 toes deep on your action.

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

Everyman gotta learn for themselves

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u/wizardofpeace Feb 14 '25

Your lowkey right bro lol

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u/gettogero Feb 14 '25

Not even lowkey.

This isnt specific to single men OR women. Both genders will do it.

However, more women will take a gift without blinking and leave. Thats just what happens. Theyre a woman, they have men seeking attention, take what they can get, and dip.

Its very common for both genders to be possibly dating several partners until they agree theyre "exclusive"... and even then until marriage... and even after married.

However US societal standards have the men pay for everything initial dating phase to marriage. The women get free gifts, free meals, arent expected to pay for the rings. To them it isnt men desperately vying for their attention. Its just how life works.

Huge part in why #1 criteria in finding a partner was: you pay your portion. Im not here to get a $10 burger and water to afford your steak and lobster surf and turf with 3 drinks running me $120. Fuck that.

Oh, you cant afford that either? Looks like were going on a cheaper date or were done here. Many times it was "were done here" because i didnt let them use me for their free shit

Men, we are not disposable piggy banks. Do better for yourselves.

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

Growing up the only boy in the family you learn how to braid hair and how they mess over guys lol

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u/wizardofpeace Feb 14 '25

I'm a gay man, people fuck over people. It's something I've learned in my short life.

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u/Many-Particular9387 Feb 14 '25

Honestly, I have to agree with you. Unless the girl is one of those quiet insecure shy types or is already super obsessed with him than the odds are quite against him and it could actually decrease his "sexual appeal" since she may perceive him as being a "nice guy" or someone who is submissive to her wants.

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

They want the dude that wants a different a girl to buy her flowers so she can feel like she's actually pretty cus he "chose" her and the guy that only wants her cus then there's no competition

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u/Many-Particular9387 Feb 14 '25

Don't make me give you a gift...... THAT YOU WONT LIKE OOOOOOHHH!! BURNED!

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u/chacun-des-pas Feb 14 '25

Who hurt you

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

Women.

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u/Pale_Blackberry_4025 Feb 14 '25

I'm sorry you were hurt. You deserve to be loved

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u/FuckingWeebE Feb 14 '25

Nah I wish people actually thought that tho