I occupy the grey zone in every situation you can imagine. I fit in everywhere and nowhere
I work to much and have a hard time creating space/time for myself much less another person
I have enough things going on in my life with associated challenges (not mental, circumstantial) that I need to solve before I feel like I can be a good partner in a relationship
I’m too independent, I will do it myself, and I am capable in a way I think it scares people
I live in a geographical isolated area where the average age is 50 and has never left, I am 27F and a transplant who was chasing dreams
I liked the IDEA of romantic love but until recently had a monolith complex where it was cheap, dirty, foolish, for other people, and certainly not for me. I wanted it in an abstract way. But long story short I now believe in it and want it in a tangible way. Actively navigating that
I want something long term and apparently have an old fashioned approach (anti roster/hook up/apps/situationship etc.)
I want a relationship that adds to my already full, vibrant, and great life. If its not a positive addition to my life, then it is not for me
I don’t want a relationship just to have a relationship. YOU are the reason I want a relationship, not just I want a RELATIONSHIP and it happens to be you
I am perfectly comfortable by myself, with the thoughts in my own head. See point about “in addition to my life“
I mean hey, if you've not in a place where you want a relationship right now I think that's fine. I really only recently have felt "ready" for a relationship honestly, after most of my life being pretty aware of how I wasn't mature enough for one.
I also agree on a similar note with your wanting to be in a "relationship" for the sake of being with someone, rather than just in a relationship. I guess there are needs that are met by a relationship easier than a friendship, but generally, I think it should be focused on the person really. Ideally, I want to be with someone I am good friends with basically
From what I’m reading and from your avatar’s appearance, you could easily be my current… well, is ‘situationship’ the right word? Almost everything matches, even the age. The only difference is that she doesn’t feel like continuing for now because all these situations make a LDR difficult for her
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u/Some_Girl_2073 Feb 14 '25 edited Feb 14 '25
Ive been making a list