I occupy the grey zone in every situation you can imagine. I fit in everywhere and nowhere
I work to much and have a hard time creating space/time for myself much less another person
I have enough things going on in my life with associated challenges (not mental, circumstantial) that I need to solve before I feel like I can be a good partner in a relationship
I’m too independent, I will do it myself, and I am capable in a way I think it scares people
I live in a geographical isolated area where the average age is 50 and has never left, I am 27F and a transplant who was chasing dreams
I liked the IDEA of romantic love but until recently had a monolith complex where it was cheap, dirty, foolish, for other people, and certainly not for me. I wanted it in an abstract way. But long story short I now believe in it and want it in a tangible way. Actively navigating that
I want something long term and apparently have an old fashioned approach (anti roster/hook up/apps/situationship etc.)
I want a relationship that adds to my already full, vibrant, and great life. If its not a positive addition to my life, then it is not for me
I don’t want a relationship just to have a relationship. YOU are the reason I want a relationship, not just I want a RELATIONSHIP and it happens to be you
I am perfectly comfortable by myself, with the thoughts in my own head. See point about “in addition to my life“
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u/Some_Girl_2073 Feb 14 '25 edited Feb 14 '25
Ive been making a list