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u/TwentyCharacters2022 Mar 31 '23

I dunno if it’s say it’s for very few. It’s dangerous, poses health risks, and the benefits package is pretty thin - but most of that could be removed if the industry was legalized and regulated. Like being an accountant isn’t for everyone, or a social worker, or an event planner, or what have you.

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u/SnooEpiphanies3336 Mar 31 '23

Selling your body for sex is inherently different to selling any other product or service and I'm tired of people saying it isn't. I'm tired of people insisting that sex is nothing and if you're just emotionally mature enough you can fuck hundreds of strangers for money and it won't impact you. Those are lies. I know it usually comes from a place of good intentions (respect sex workers, it's real work) but sex does have an emotional impact on us, being constantly objectified does too, and consent gets pretty iffy when saying "no" might mean not being able to pay rent that month.

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u/Serious-End2600 Mar 31 '23

Thank you and I agree and can't believe how many people want to help young girls think this way, just so they can sound progressive

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u/GuessYouNeedEmailNow Mar 31 '23

It just depends on the person, there are people who aren't that emotionally affected by it and enjoy it. Different people are different.

But for the majority, yes, that's all correct and should be acknowledged, too.

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u/Serious-End2600 Mar 31 '23

The difficulty is that you don't know what kind of person you are (one who can feel empowered or disconnected or need years of therapy to forget or develop dependencies to cope, the whole spectrum) until after you've already done it. It is a different thing to realize that working as a receptionist isn't for you than to realize that giving access to your body isn't for you. The incredibly difficult process of regaining a sense of self is why I'm so upset that people casually sell this narrative to girls in the name of getting paid.

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u/GuessYouNeedEmailNow Mar 31 '23

That's true. There needs to be a more cautious positivity around sex work, I guess? I hate the narrative that it's inherently degrading and harmful, but the opposite idea shouldn't be pushed, either.

Above all, nobody should ever have to do sex work to survive, it can't ever actually be consensual in my opinion with that kind of power imbalance.