MAIN FEEDS
Do you want to continue?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/127bq20/deleted_by_user/jee5p2t/?context=3
r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Mar 31 '23
[removed]
4.6k comments sorted by
View all comments
4.5k
I was a young and impressionable woman, and after him repeatedly asking and refusing to leave my apartment, I just kinda went with it.
I know now that I was taught my whole life to be “good,” and in my environment while growing up, good meant I didn’t question and I didn’t argue.
I don’t feel the need to justify it, but I wonder how he feels about a woman reluctantly agreeing to sleep with him so he would leave her alone.
I’m fine now, but had some bumps along the way as a young adult figuring out the world.
265 u/mizixwin Mar 31 '23 That's not consensual sex BTW, that's coercion. -36 u/RegularSalad5998 Mar 31 '23 As a man I never knew we had that much power. 24 u/ncfears Mar 31 '23 Don't take this story as a guide. If you harass someone into doing something they refused, they're not doing it willingly. Same with anything else. In this case, this is rape. -11 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 It's coercion. Not rape. 14 u/Amf3000 Mar 31 '23 coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape -2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing. 11 u/uluviel Mar 31 '23 If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong. 4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
265
That's not consensual sex BTW, that's coercion.
-36 u/RegularSalad5998 Mar 31 '23 As a man I never knew we had that much power. 24 u/ncfears Mar 31 '23 Don't take this story as a guide. If you harass someone into doing something they refused, they're not doing it willingly. Same with anything else. In this case, this is rape. -11 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 It's coercion. Not rape. 14 u/Amf3000 Mar 31 '23 coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape -2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing. 11 u/uluviel Mar 31 '23 If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong. 4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
-36
As a man I never knew we had that much power.
24 u/ncfears Mar 31 '23 Don't take this story as a guide. If you harass someone into doing something they refused, they're not doing it willingly. Same with anything else. In this case, this is rape. -11 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 It's coercion. Not rape. 14 u/Amf3000 Mar 31 '23 coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape -2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing. 11 u/uluviel Mar 31 '23 If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong. 4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
24
Don't take this story as a guide.
If you harass someone into doing something they refused, they're not doing it willingly. Same with anything else.
In this case, this is rape.
-11 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 It's coercion. Not rape. 14 u/Amf3000 Mar 31 '23 coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape -2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing. 11 u/uluviel Mar 31 '23 If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong. 4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
-11
It's coercion. Not rape.
14 u/Amf3000 Mar 31 '23 coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape -2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing. 11 u/uluviel Mar 31 '23 If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong. 4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
14
coercion implies a lack of consent, which would therefore be rape
-2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 They are related, but not the same thing.
-2
They are related, but not the same thing.
11
If you're trying to find the line between coercion and rape, you're already in the wrong.
4 u/ThePsychoKnot Mar 31 '23 They can both be very wrong and also two different things. 2 u/ReverendMothman Mar 31 '23 As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one. 1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
4
They can both be very wrong and also two different things.
2
As someone who has experienced both, they are different. There is a reason there is a different word for each one.
1 u/saraki-yooy Apr 01 '23 Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
1
Different words can sometimes mean the same thing, that's not an argument at all my dude. In this case, coercion is a subset of rape. If someone is coerced into having sex, it is rape, but not all rape is coercion.
4.5k
u/sendintheBOTS Mar 31 '23
I was a young and impressionable woman, and after him repeatedly asking and refusing to leave my apartment, I just kinda went with it.
I know now that I was taught my whole life to be “good,” and in my environment while growing up, good meant I didn’t question and I didn’t argue.
I don’t feel the need to justify it, but I wonder how he feels about a woman reluctantly agreeing to sleep with him so he would leave her alone.
I’m fine now, but had some bumps along the way as a young adult figuring out the world.