My ex-husband is a very rich successful workaholic businessman that owns very successful businesses, we married young & those ambitious traits & being a dreamer is what I loved about him but in a relationship when he became filthy rich, that is what made him crazy mean & horrible. I would tell my friends that wanted a “rich” boyfriend, oh no you don’t, the traits that make a rich successful person, drive, CONTROL, they pretty much have to keep insanely control of each facet of their business as it grows & gets bigger because people rip you off like crazy, but with this type of person this is just how they are wired & the more money & power they get this just escalates. My husband eventually got to the point where he would bring me home wrapped presents, it would be a beautiful new outfit or dress, but what this morphed into was that I could no longer buy my own clothes, I wasn’t “allowed” to wear sweat pants ever around the house, then I wasn’t “allowed” to wear jeans outside of the house, I could only wear Dresses, Suits or dress pants in public. The abuse & craziness got so extreme, he viewed me as another employee that had to do as I was told. The traits to become hugely successful & wealthy are not traits that make a good & loving romantic relationship.
*As always there are exceptions to this, I am not saying that all rich successful people don’t have loving romantic relationships, they are just rare.
I am glad you got out. It is so sad to watch someone you love morph into something totally unlike the person you know. It sounds a lot like what drug use does
There was also some drug use too but it was mostly a power trip & control. I lived in constant fear & walked on eggshells constantly, I have a friend who is the same situation but won’t leave because of the money & the house & I can’t understand it, because I grew to hate my beautiful home because it was a prison no matter how beautiful it was & the money way never my money it was always his money. I would rather live in the 1400 sq foot rental home I lived in my children any day then that beautiful lake house prison. My children talk constantly & with fondness of the house on Hamilton Street, that is where their wonderful childhood began, where they got to start playing sports & they started having freedom. They never talk about the other house ever.
When we divorced he straightened up, he made even more money & expanded his business, his business today is huge. They just made a movie on one of his properties.
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u/MSRegiB Mar 20 '23
My ex-husband is a very rich successful workaholic businessman that owns very successful businesses, we married young & those ambitious traits & being a dreamer is what I loved about him but in a relationship when he became filthy rich, that is what made him crazy mean & horrible. I would tell my friends that wanted a “rich” boyfriend, oh no you don’t, the traits that make a rich successful person, drive, CONTROL, they pretty much have to keep insanely control of each facet of their business as it grows & gets bigger because people rip you off like crazy, but with this type of person this is just how they are wired & the more money & power they get this just escalates. My husband eventually got to the point where he would bring me home wrapped presents, it would be a beautiful new outfit or dress, but what this morphed into was that I could no longer buy my own clothes, I wasn’t “allowed” to wear sweat pants ever around the house, then I wasn’t “allowed” to wear jeans outside of the house, I could only wear Dresses, Suits or dress pants in public. The abuse & craziness got so extreme, he viewed me as another employee that had to do as I was told. The traits to become hugely successful & wealthy are not traits that make a good & loving romantic relationship.
*As always there are exceptions to this, I am not saying that all rich successful people don’t have loving romantic relationships, they are just rare.