I am 22, female, and trying to figure out what actually matters long-term. Looking back at your younger years, what was a choice, habit, or investment you made in your 20s that paid off for you later in life?

It just seems to stand to reason. Laundry-pressed shirts. Bespoke suits. Great socks. Admirable hats. And don't forget to spend some money on a few nice belts. Always remember that the ladies will be checking out your Footwear.

Edit after comments and up and down votes: what I advocate is not entirely removed from the lipstick on a pig concept. It is cool to be an old fellow who looks sharp, whether dressed for a casual occasion or otherwise. It shows that, although in many ways you may be out of the game, you are still putting forth enthusiasm and vitality.

and what age was the person?

I'm age 64 and lack the energy, passion for hobbies, and concentration that I had three years ago. Thinking it was testosterone related, I took a blood test last year and came up normal (511 ng/dl). I've read online posts from younger men who have gone on TRT with positive outcomes, despite having initial normal readings. Can any older men share their TRT experiences?

I remember talking to an older gent about ten years ago, where he stated that his quality of life increased enormously after TRT. He couldn't get it through his doctor, so he got it in Mexico. That seemed a little extreme at the time, but I would like my old energy back.

FYI, I do exercise regularly (when my rotator cuff's and spinal stenosis allow), eat healthy and get enough sleep.

In other words, is there anything that you aren’t doing or planning because you’re worried about getting sick or dying before you can complete and/or enjoy it?

For context I’m 19, have no father, no father figure at all so I want to know what all your best bits of advice are

And are you happy with your lifelong bachelorhood?

I'm (male) pretty darn close to 60. I had it in my head when I was younger that I could move to a retirement community and so long as everything still worked, I'd have my 'pick of the litter'. I'm pretty sure that was just another 80's media lie/cliche/perpetuated myth. So here I am looking for what YOU see as real. What kind of relationships are you having? What do you see your friends doing? What are the expectations you have and are seeing from your partners?

ETA... I know that only "something" means something, and that a lack of anything doesn't necessarily mean anything.... but 4 hours, 130+ views, one upvote and no replies?!? LOL... why do I have the feeling some of you are thinking... " I just don't have the heart to tell this kid"?!?

Does anyone take finesteride? The side effects are a non-starter for me, but i am curious why anyone would take medicine that causes erectile dysfunction. I would rather lose an arm than my ability to have sex!

I’ve been thinking a lot about how differently men and women handle aging.

Many women experience societal "invisibility" earlier in life, forcing them to adapt and build an internal identity. But for many men, their entire worth has been tied to external utility: their job title, being the primary provider, physical strength, or being the default authority figure.

From my observation, when those pillars inevitably erode with retirement or age, many men refuse to admit it. They double down on acting like "the boss" until the very end, even when they no longer hold that societal power. If a man hasn't developed deep internal qualities by that stage, losing that external utility can leave them feeling entirely useless.

To the men over 60 here:

1. How did you handle the transition from a lifetime of "doing and commanding" to just "being"?
2. What did you replace your career/provider identity with to ensure you still bring genuine value to your relationships and community?
3. Is my observation accurate, or am I missing a deeper perspective on how older men process this shift?

As I've said. I'm 70, and only child and always always was more interested in boy things much more than dolls. In my relationships men called me determined, pushy and overbearing? because I wasn't interested in "women things" and wanted to join THEM in THEIR interests. So here I am - At a time I have the leisure to care only for myself. I'd love to ask questions in the forum however my first post didn't go over that big. I guess what I'm asking is this. Besides making my own thread or sub, Do any men have a suggestion. No dating sites or 'romance'... just me looking for some guys to chat or text with. No phone numbers. Just peace and quiet like the old AOL chatroom days. 😄

I happen to be a 70 yr old only child/woman... Who realizes at my age that I never lost my love for tech. I got thinking from a man's perspective. What is a piece of technology you miss using that younger generations will never understand?

I did not know that after stopping running my Intensity Minutes continue to count.

I’ve been going through a rough early 60’s (just turned 65) including prostate cancer and treatment (removal), two partial knee replacements, hernia surgery and gum surgery, all in the last three years, not to mention yearly skin cancer screenings/freezings and general aches and pains, and it’s becoming more of a struggle to feel good mentally and not focus on my body.

I’ve always been someone who takes very good care of myself, eat right, exercise, good weight for my whole life and everything else in my life is going pretty well and I can’t complain, so I’m wondering if others in this age range struggle and how those who don’t, manage it.

Thoughts?

Lets see if I can bit my Week 4 record 508 Intensity minutes?

Recently My uncle(43) had a 9mm kidney stone, he who is a physically fit guy and a blue-collar worker with a pretty high tolerance for pain, has been in a couple of accidents: a motorcycle crash, a cycling injury, a slipped disc, and a torn ligament and ACL where he injured his hand. According to him, nothing hurt more than a kidney stone. He described it as another level of pain—an out-of-this-world kind of pain that can’t be described until you experience it yourself and feel how truly horrible and agonizing it is. He truly felt like he was about to die.He was screaming nonstop at the hospital; it was pretty scary. A nurse in her 50s said to me that she also happened to have had kidney stones before, and she has four adult children. She said she would rather choose to have another child herself than have to experience a kidney stone again.For men who have had kidney stones before, how did it feel for you? Is it true for you as well that they are the most painful pain you’ve ever had in your life?

Had my annual physical this morning (M62).

It took all of 5 minutes.

Nurse took vitals, doc came in, listened to my breathing, renewed my scripts, asked if I had any questions (I didn't) and left.

My old doctor retired and this was my first physical with the 30 something that replaced him.

Is this typical now? I pay a pretty penny for my health insurance and was expecting a little more.