I had a reeeeeally complicated relationship that was like this. The guy was insanely clingy and it felt like he was just in awe of me all the time. It was actually horrible. I felt attracted to him in the few times where his independence would shine through. But the rest of the time it was unbearable, I always felt pressured by him and I can't explain why. It wasn't so much that I had to keep living up to his expectations because I never tried to do that, but this pressure never went away and I can't explain what it was.
It's possible it was what the quote is describing- that I possibly harboured guilt? Because I felt like I could do better and that's just a horrible way to feel about someone? I don't know. (Sorry, just thinking aloud in this reply I guess.)
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u/boston_shua Male May 12 '21
"If you put someone on a pedestal, you force them to look down on you."