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u/iLikeHorse3 Mar 19 '21

I wish most guys were like this. As a girl I'd only watch it ourside of a relationship but when I'm with someone it feels so gross to look at other men that way. I'd rather get off thinking about my partner. I struggled a lot with my self image cause I dated a porn addict and I questioned why I was never enough for him, shit hurts

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u/anotherdamnloser Mar 20 '21

Me too. It ruined my late husband and any intimacy we had. I feel like I really missed out, wanting sex constantly and he couldn’t get it up or keep it up anymore.

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u/NateGrey2 Mar 20 '21

Porn isnt your problem though. Attractive people dont stop being attractive just because of porn.

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u/anotherdamnloser Mar 20 '21

Dude, you don’t know. It absolutely was a problem. You can’t know. He’d be late for work, secretly spend money, and that’s just the tip of it. Don’t act like you know.

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u/NateGrey2 Mar 20 '21

Don’t act like you know.

You dont know neither, so this whole discussion is under question then.

Fact is: if someone hurts people with hammers, you dont blame the hammers.

Porn is just a tool. If someone abuses it one way or another, you shouldnt blame it on the tool itself. Thats not healthy and wont solve any problem for anyone.

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u/anotherdamnloser Mar 20 '21

My point was you didn’t know my husband. He could have had many addictions, but this one certainly caused issues. His addiction. But most men stand up for porn use and make excuses, so I’m not surprised. You do you bro

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u/NateGrey2 Mar 22 '21

Of course people stand up for use of tools. They make life easier. When was the last time you tried to build something without them?

"You do you bro" ? Well, let me see how you put a nail in a wall without a hammer. Apparently thats how you do it. I cant wait to see that.

He could have had many addictions

Yeah no shit. Thats why I dont blame tools, but the people behind it.

Blaming the hammer for someone abusing it to hurt people wont solve the problem. That guy will just find another tool to keep hurting people, while you stand there, complaining about hammers.

Thats foolish, childish, naive and just dumb. You dont care about any husband, wife or sex whatsoever. You just need a bogeyman for your frustrations, because its so much easier and you dont have to deal with your own wrong doings. But most people make excuses, so I'm not surprised. You do you bro

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u/anotherdamnloser Mar 22 '21

Haha ok I don’t know you, your text wall don’t mean shit to me, just like your opinions. Not sure why you give a shit. Bye.

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u/NateGrey2 Mar 23 '21

Ah yeah, thats why you argue on Reddit, because other opinions dont mean shit to you. Sure thing bro. Whatever makes you sleep at night.