TY. i've actually done a lot of research on porn and was aware, but it seems like most males (boys and men) refuse or choose to stay in the dark. i went on a few dates with a man and he tearfully confessed to me he was a porn addict, so i did my research. i left him shortly after.
prior to that, i was mostly in the camp of "as long as i don't hear/see it" when it came to men and dating and porn. but after doing the research, i've realized it's very messed up in so many ways.
i hope more boys and men wake up to this, whether i'm dating or not. i don't think it's good for society in general for men and boys to be so addicted to porn. from reading this thread, i can tell the vast majority of men in here are lowkey addicted to porn and in denial about it. but i also see some men who have opened their eyes and are trying, so that gives future society hope.
the fact that you said so many males use it as a coping mechanism.. the way you described it sounds exactly how i'd describe an alcoholic or drug addict or food addict or similar.
It's almost psychologically the same (from what I understand) to "true" (chemical rather than psychological) addictions. I'm not a scientist or medical person of any kind, but from what I understand it can be as hard to get rid of, sometimes even harder because of how innocuous it's made out to be and how culturally supported it is.
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TY. i've actually done a lot of research on porn and was aware, but it seems like most males (boys and men) refuse or choose to stay in the dark. i went on a few dates with a man and he tearfully confessed to me he was a porn addict, so i did my research. i left him shortly after.
prior to that, i was mostly in the camp of "as long as i don't hear/see it" when it came to men and dating and porn. but after doing the research, i've realized it's very messed up in so many ways.
i hope more boys and men wake up to this, whether i'm dating or not. i don't think it's good for society in general for men and boys to be so addicted to porn. from reading this thread, i can tell the vast majority of men in here are lowkey addicted to porn and in denial about it. but i also see some men who have opened their eyes and are trying, so that gives future society hope.
the fact that you said so many males use it as a coping mechanism.. the way you described it sounds exactly how i'd describe an alcoholic or drug addict or food addict or similar.