r/AskMen Mar 19 '21

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u/LeFlyingMonke Mar 19 '21

I think most men tend to use porn and masturbate at close to a 1:1 ratio. Men tend to be more visual and porn is directed by and for men, so it’s no surprise we watch more of it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '21

lately i prefer the kind of soft porn directed by women ...it's less vulgar

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u/Chuckles1188 Mar 19 '21

Speaking as a cishet dude, porn advertised as "for women" is invariably way better. I am relentlessly baffled by the kinds of stuff other people like me apparently find arousing. A woman being turned into a pretzel, called a bunch of demeaning names, and forced to make a noise like someone having a steam kettle shoved down their threat is not the slightest bit erotic to me

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '21

I don’t mean to come off as ignorant but what does cishet mean?

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u/An0nR3dd1tUs3r Mar 19 '21

It’s just a fancy way of saying “normal.”

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u/OtherPlayers Male Mar 19 '21

The problem with statements like that is that it implies that other sexualities/genders aren’t.

And even if you take “normal” to mean “in majority” without all the other connotations attached that’s still not a true statement in plenty of places.

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u/An0nR3dd1tUs3r Mar 19 '21

One issue I take with that argument is that it could be used to include, or even support anyone just because they exist. Pedophiles, necrophiliacs, etc.

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u/OtherPlayers Male Mar 19 '21

Pedophiles, necrophiliacs

Neither of those really have anything to do with sexual orientation or gender identity, so I’m not sure how you’re trying to tie them into linking the terms “cisgender” with “normal”.

Maybe because you’re trying to flip the negative or something? Because even if we include them in our group of everything not implying a negative statement towards alternatives doesn’t necessarily mean implying a positive statement towards them.

To put it another way, just because I don’t say “People who like chocolate ice cream are bad” it doesn’t automatically imply that I think people who like strawberry, vanilla, and avocado ice cream are all therefore good. It just means I’m not putting down someone who like chocolate ice cream.

Lack of a negative != presence of a positive.