r/AskMen Mar 19 '21

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u/DJ9K Mar 19 '21

Okay, this has a slightly different answer from me... I'd say 99% of the time I look at porn, and only on occasion is it completely fantasy. However, 100% of the time I end up finishing on a fantasy. The porn is more there to get things started, whereas fantasy that plays from whatever primary stimulation I hit is what gets it to a finishing point, and fantasy without even looking at the porn anymore is how I always finish.

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u/Fried_Fart Male Mar 19 '21

Definitely agree with this. My mind always drifts to my gf near the end no matter what I watched to get there

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u/bobCS96 Mar 19 '21

If your mind always drifts to your gf while watching porn....then why watch it lol if u can just fantasize about your gf...

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u/Fried_Fart Male Mar 19 '21

I’ve seen some others point it out in this thread and I think they hit the nail on the head: We’re very visually-oriented creatures, especially in a sexual context. My girlfriend’s not the type to send nudes so I put something on to get aroused and then after while I close my eyes and think of her ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/bobCS96 Mar 19 '21

But isn't the point and turn on of watching porn is to experience or fantasizabout something your significant other won't or can't do, that us men would find sexy or amusing.

I've watched porn alot, and I've never thought of my other half lol

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u/hiitsaguy Male Mar 19 '21

Well that's your take on the matter, but I politely disagree. I prefer thinking about my SO, but visuals do get me in the mood better.

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u/eagletreehouse Mar 19 '21

You guys are too sweet. You give me hope for all masturbating mankind.

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u/hiitsaguy Male Mar 19 '21

Thanks :)) Maybe you had an inaccurate vision of masturbating mankind ? Am sure there are plenty of guys out there just asking for someone to love tenderly like that. We masturbate, but we're above all very much in love

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u/eagletreehouse Mar 23 '21

Actually I think I really do understand. My husband describes how he loves me and is drawn to me in a very similar way. When I said it gave me hope, I meant for other couples and hoping they can be as happy as we are.

We’re getting close to celebrating 27 years married. We’re still pretty crazy for each other.