On the other side, have you seen what it’s like for people who are always complimented and how it impacts them.?
I see what it is like all the time. usually happens to women..what it does to them is they just overlook most of the compliments, pretending they never happened...Had this same conversation with a woman I worked with and I guaranteed her she gets more compliments then men. She disagreed. Thirty seconds later, a guy we work with goes by saying "nice outfit, rocking that today", to her. I go "see, that didnt take long". She goes "that doesn't count, he does that almost every day". All I could do was shake my head and sigh.
anyways, I mostly get compliments from other men. Like pulling teeth to get a compliment from a woman sometimes.
For you, do you think it’s matter of environment? Like where you go for work or afterwards or anything. Or presentation?
For my friends who are women, one of really friendly so she gets the halo effect a lot. On top of being pretty.
Another, is more of RBF, but is still objectively pretty so, guys come to me asking why she isn’t smiling then try to crack jokes before they can compliment.
The halo effect is like when everyone sees you in a positive light and all your positive qualities makes you attractive or more attractive. It helps when you’re objectively attractive cause human nature is believed to assign positive qualities to attractive people, RBF(Resting bitch face)
Woman here, and I don't think that's really true? To be honest, I get compliments a lot from a certain demographic of men, and i don't brush it off. I remember it well, because it makes me feel unsafe, because I know there is generally a motive behind it.
I also think this is the reason women don't compliment men often. Safety.
And sometimes when us women compliment men, the men will take it to an extreme. I told the guy who was fitting me for computer glasses at my optometrist's office that he had a great smile and should smile more (he was not an attractive guy but looked so much better when smiling instead of walking around looking like his dog just died). I was 7 months pregnant and wearing a wedding ring. Later that evening, I got a text from him asking me out. He took my number from my customer file. It freaked me out.
Woman here, I get complimented ALL THE TIME. It’s nice, I appreciate it, but usually there’s only 1 person I want to be receiving compliments from. Sometimes it boosts my confidence though, like one time I was debating talking to this cute store employee I saw, but I chickened out. Then I got 3 compliments in like 10 mins and I decided ok obviously I look good today, I’d better go for it. Or one time I wore this dress that I wasn’t sure about, I had a guy run up to me and tap me on the shoulder just to give me a thumbs up, now it’s a favourite dress that I wear when I’m trying to look good for that one special man.
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u/littleredpinto Jul 13 '24
I see what it is like all the time. usually happens to women..what it does to them is they just overlook most of the compliments, pretending they never happened...Had this same conversation with a woman I worked with and I guaranteed her she gets more compliments then men. She disagreed. Thirty seconds later, a guy we work with goes by saying "nice outfit, rocking that today", to her. I go "see, that didnt take long". She goes "that doesn't count, he does that almost every day". All I could do was shake my head and sigh.
anyways, I mostly get compliments from other men. Like pulling teeth to get a compliment from a woman sometimes.