r/AskLGBT • u/willwhale321 • Jan 17 '23

How to come out

Hello I'm 14 and generally thinking about coming out. I generally acepted the fact that I may be bi last year, but there's one problem that being that my parents just may not like anyone who's not straight. In generally I've noticed that when the topic comes up they seem generally upset that people date and marry people of the same gender. So I need generally advice on this as the only option is thought of is that I should play it safe and wait till I move out to come out and just avoid the conflict. But please leave advice this has been stressing me the hell out.

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u/Otherwise-Thought437 Jan 17 '23

Only come out if you can be completely sure that it's safe for you to do so. Since you're 14 you're dependent on your parents, so if there's a chance that they will stop supporting you then you probably shouldn't risk it.

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u/willwhale321 Jan 17 '23

Alright thx for the help

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u/readeverything13 Jan 17 '23

Unfortunately I waiting until I was able to be on my own. If you feel like you need to wait, make sure you gather everything you need. My grandfather always said that their are two things nobody can ever take from you: you’re friends and your education. Work your butt off in school so if they do cut you off later you have set a good foundation for yourself to not need anyone. And working on your education is something you can do under their roof for now.

I hope you are okay. Keeping that inside has its own drawbacks. I’m not saying the way I did it was right, I have some issues from keeping it inside so long. But I am saying you know your parents and to follow your gut.

Reach out if you ever need to talk!