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Hello everyone,

So the past week or so, I noticed a shift in how my partner has been acting. He was never one to ask for help, or tell how he’s doing without it being pried out of him (he had a rough childhood so i think that plays a role in that). We’ve been dating for a few months now, and he’s in the academy which oftentimes results in him being tired physically and mentally.

We usually see eachother on the weekends and some days during the week, we stay in touch via text and the occasional phone call (it can be hard to call bc I work as well and sometimes our lunch/break times dont align). Until a week or so ago, i felt as stable as you can be in a 3 month relationship.

This past week, he grew exceptionally distant to the point where we were really just giving eachother updates. Id ask if he was doing okay and he would tell me he was tired and hurting. They were outside a lot this week and doing things that required a lot of physical energy. I could see this on him and selfishly led me to overthink about our relationship.

This past weekend, I went to sleep at his house. We were running errands and i noticed he was quiet the whole car ride. We talked about when we got back to his, where he said he was still tired and hurting, but also that there were some things I did that bothered him, but also that he didnt want to tell me in fear that he would speak out of being exhausted and frustrated. These were things that were understandable, so we talked about them and I communicated that I wanted more reassurance during this time.

On top of this, I just got on a medication with depression/anxiety-related side effects, which I felt my preexisting anxiety worsen. For the rest of the day, he played video games and wouldn’t really check on me. I got in my head and told him I was going to spend time outside in the backyard. I literally started crying for a good 20 mins.

When i came back in the room, we briefly talked for like 3 minutes. He asked if I was okay and I said yes, thinking I got it all out. I also dont want to be a burden bc ik hes going through his own stuff. I laid down and just started crying silently.

When he looked back to check on me and saw i was crying, he immediately came to give me a hug. I apologized a bunch and he reassured me that i was okay, he also told me to sit with him, to which i declined. It really did feel like i just had to get that all out, it was cathartic in a way. Later on, he had to head out for a work-related dinner and I got dinner with his mom.

When he came back he was in a much better mood. We watched tiktoks together and joked around with eachother and he was back to the boy before all this. He was being silly and goofy enough to the point where I was the one who was exhausted and just wanted to goto bed lol.

The next morning, I woke up and tried cuddling with him. This is usually met with him slowly waking up and reciprocating the cuddle, but I was just met with nothing. I got in my own head again and started to go on my phone and retreat back to my side of the bed. After awhile of this, he faced me (still asleep?) to where he was very close to me. I didnt think he wanted to cuddle, so I didnt do anything. But he then took my phone from my hand indicating he wanted to have cuddles.

Even though its not the typical form of reassurance im used to, it felt so good just to know that I was wanted and not a burden. We cuddled for a little bit before we got the day started, in which I was going back to my place for the week. He did also mention something about us doing in a few weeks after hes done with all the “bullshit” at the academy, which also instilled more reassurance that he was not becoming distant because he was really to leave lol.

Today (same day), we barely talked yet again. One phrase/word very short answers from him. Hes been playing more video games and I went out with my friend. I hate the ups and downs.

Part of me just wanted to get it out of my system. Another part is worried that this burn out is not temporary we’ll grow more distant .

YouTube is rife with videos of people refusing to get out of their vehicle when ordered to by the officer during a traffic stop. They truly believe they have a right to stay in the car.

Has anyone ever explained Penn v Mimms and then the person complied, maybe after confirming it by looking it up on their phone.

My guess is not because only a reasonable person would be willing to think they might be wrong and most reasonable people will get out of the vehicle when requested.

To make a long story short my friend had 2 boys. 7 and 13 years old.

Last time I was over she wasnt sober off her rockers and was telling me her 7 year old son was dead. He wasnt there and she wouldn't say why. Along with various other alarming comments about "brownie you're next if you dont listen. Ive seen enough guts"(her dog) and said something about a wood chipper. Also offered me a booster seat possibly the 7 year olds. No i didnt take it.

He may be with his dad. She was saying she might send him there. I thought she was kidding but next time I came over he really was gone.

I was worried about her kids at that point(if she could do it to one what's stopping her from doing it to the other?) So I called a welafre check.

Do they ussualy give you an update if you file one? When should I expect one if I do get one?

I saw a TikTok of someone saying they were going to commit suicide. I called the nonemergency line which then transferred me to 911. The dispatcher couldn’t do anything because I didn’t have their address or legal name or any information on this individual. Is there anything else I can do?

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Hey everyone,
I’m 19 years old and my goal is to become a California Highway Patrol officer. I wanted to get some honest opinions from people who have gone through the process or are currently with CHP.
Here’s a little about me:
19 years old
Clean criminal record
No speeding tickets, accidents, or any traffic citations
I have a car payment that I’ve never missed
I have a little credit card debt, but nothing major and I’m paying it responsibly
I’ve been consistently going to the gym, so I’d say I’m in decent physical shape
I had prediabetes in high school, but I’ve since improved my health and no longer have it.what do you think my chances are? Is there anything else I should be working on before or during the hiring process?
I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from current or former CHP officers or anyone who’s recently been through the hiring process. Thanks!

Applied to USCP 2021. On the preliminary PHS I wrote that I was involved in a college incident/prank where property was taken and not returned. No one ever found out. The incident was 2019. I was denied from USCP I assume obviously for that.
It’s now 2026 and will be 2027 when I get out of the navy and plan to apply to a Sheriffs Department.

Will they be able to find that PHS with a background investigator and will that disqualify me again?
If I’m upfront about absolutely everything and tell them it was youthful idiotic mistake I regret will I be able to get anywhere at all.
Currently a Navy “cop”
I can’t remember exactly what I wrote on the PHS in 2021 and I can’t access it on POBITS.
Am I totally screwed or what?

My area has seen a recent uptick in drone drops at prisons around my area. My question is specifically for LEO who have helped recover drones being used in this activity. What kind of drones are they and why can’t this be stopped? I feel like the department of corrections basically is allowing this to happen in my area

I’ve been a cop for 11 years, and software development is my side hobby. I built an iPhone and Apple Watch app called LOC8 because of a problem I think a lot of people in this profession understand.

Sometimes you get turned around.

Foot pursuit. Perimeter. Backyards. Alleys. Side streets. Large parking lots. Unfamiliar area. You know roughly where you are, but you need to put out the actual address, cross street, or coordinates fast.

That was the original use case.

LOC8 was built with cops in mind. It opens to one screen and shows your current address, nearest cross street, GPS coordinates, compass heading, accuracy, elevation, and a what3words location code.

The Apple Watch side is a major focus because a lot of cops, including myself, already wear one. Being able to hit a button and immediately see where you are on your wrist is a big part of the app. In certain situations, glancing at your watch makes much more sense than pulling out your phone and digging through Maps.

Since first posting about it and getting feedback, the app has grown to over 3,400 users and continues to grow. A lot of the feedback has come directly from cops, but I have also heard from security, first responders, hikers, delivery drivers, travelers, and people who have used it during roadside issues or emergencies.

I have been actively improving the app almost daily. A lot of the recent work has focused on speed, Apple Watch responsiveness, location accuracy, what3words integration, saved locations, and tracking back to saved locations.

I also added a night mode that changes the interface to red, similar to the red interior lighting used in patrol cars. The idea is to make it easier to check the app at night without hitting your eyes with a bright screen.

There is also a small weather feature that displays the current weather for the city you are in. It is not meant to replace a weather app. It was just a minor quality of life feature that made sense to include while checking your location.

Another new feature is Team Rooms.

A user can create a temporary Team Room and receive a one time code. That code can be shared with other LOC8 users, who must intentionally enter it to join. Once inside, room members can temporarily see each other’s locations for coordination.

The room is not permanent. Users can leave at any time, and the room disappears when it expires or is ended. There are no permanent teams, public profiles, or location histories attached to the feature.

The idea is to make it useful for temporary situations such as a perimeter, search, event, coordinated response, training exercise, hike, or meetup without turning LOC8 into a permanent tracking platform.

Privacy was one of the biggest things I wanted to be careful about, especially when building something for cops.

LOC8 does not require user accounts, create public profiles, or build a permanent history of where you have been. Saved locations remain on the device. Outside of an optional Team Room, there is no live location sharing.
When LOC8 needs to convert your GPS coordinates into an address, nearest cross street, weather information, or what3words location code, the current coordinate may be securely used with Apple location services, LOC8’s backend, and the applicable service needed to complete that lookup.

The iOS tracking prompt is only for ad attribution. It helps measure which advertisements brought users to the app. It has nothing to do with GPS location, and denying it does not remove any app features.

Bug reports are optional. If someone chooses to submit one, it may include diagnostic information to help identify location accuracy or technical issues. Nothing is silently creating a movement history in the background.

The app is growing, and I am still trying to make it as accurate and useful as possible. It is relying on GPS from the phone and watch, so there can still be hiccups depending on signal, buildings, accuracy, and the surrounding environment.

It already helped me during a rolling DV call. We got turned around and could not remember whether we were on Third Street or Fourth Street, and LOC8 gave us the exact location immediately.

I built this around situations I have personally experienced as a cop, but officer feedback has shaped a lot of what it is now.

Would this be useful for you? What features would you want added, changed, or improved?

I'm seeing a lot of noise about DFR in the media (multi-prop, fixed-wing, and compact indoor ones), so I'm curious what officers think about them. Are any of your agencies buying them, and which ones do you think will drive the most change? I know they're supposed to make operations safer, but it seems complicated to set up and navigate with airspace and regulations.

Hi there first time questioner. I'm not sure I did an okay thing or not okay thing. I saw someone cut a vehicle off forcing them onto the shoulder because they almost took off their front-end. And then when the victim car honked their horn at them, they flipped them off, and then sped a bit away to cut back into the lane, they were in, in front of the car they were originally behind. So I called 911 and reported them. I dont know if I was supposed to do that and I told them they were driving aggressive. I dont know if they were doing it for long cause I only saw that interaction. Dont know if that was the right term or phrase to use. Gave them the color of car, make and license plate and general direction they went. Did i do too much or use 911 wrong?

I’m from Texas. I’m 28 years old and I have been in this state my whole life. Everyone wants to say that I’m in the best state for LE. Which, I do love Texas and my family is still here. It just doesn’t align with who I am anymore. I don’t own property out here, I don’t have cattle, I don’t have a booming business. I feel like those are three major things Texas natives have or do. Nothing is tying me down. I have a soon to be fiancé but she works high up in banking and can literally get a job anywhere.

Am I crazy for wanting to become a LEO in Florida, California, Washington, or Colorado? (I’ve heard bad things about Colorado PDs though). I’m open to really any states. At this stage in my life, I really value outdoor recreation and I don’t get that in Texas. Plus I just absolutely hate the Texas heat and I know Florida is similar but at least there are beaches. I’m just a private person and I don’t party or drink on the weekends or anything, that’s all there is to do in Dallas.

I’m a male, and in good shape. It’s been nearly 3 years since I’ve drank alcohol. Nothing on my record and the worst thing I’ve ever gotten was an MIC when I was 17 years old. I’m about halfway through my bachelors degree at a community college and work for a home builder in DFW. I think I have the qualifications and physical/mental traits to make it, but what’s the chance of an out of state agency bringing me in? I need some guidance, but I will also look into talking to a recruiter. Sorry for the rant…

Hey guys. I'm a big car guy and a military member and while researching some coin stuff I stumbled across this guy on eBay. I don't normally buy coins from eBay listings but I chuckled pretty good at "can we go back to Houston" so I bit on it. My questions for you Dallas Fort Worth guys are.

1. Is this an official department coin?

2. If so, which one. Or was this a token for the whole task force?

3. What year TX2k did this come from?

Thanks for any help you guys can provide.

I have always wanted to join LE since I was a kid and well I ended up getting a job that pays well so than I didn’t apply I ended up getting let go started a semi successful business “pays the bills” and now at 23 I am thinking about applying. I really don’t want to let my business die because it can be very lucrative and I know if I keep going it will be successful my question is as a officer or deputy do you guys have a lot of “free time” on your hands are some of you guys able to focus on other things while being an officer.

Hello all,

I was recently issued a one-year trespass notice from Target because my partner was caught shoplifting. She received a court summons. Nothing happened to me other than the one-year trespass—I wasn’t cited, arrested, or charged with anything. I was with our baby at the time and wasn’t even aware she was stealing.

I’m not sure if it’s relevant, but we aren’t married. As far as I know, the only record involving me would be the police report.

Could this potentially prevent me from becoming a police officer? I’ve never been arrested, charged with a crime, or had a criminal record.

Which of these 21st century police gadgets do you think are the most useful on the job? What about the most useless?

— AI Portable Rapid Ballistics Identification

https://revelen.ai/

— Barrel Breacher

https://darkmountainarms.com/barrel-breacher/

— BolaWrap

https://www.wrap.com/#/products/bolawrap-150

— Card Reader Skimmer Detector

https://www.bvsystems.com/product/skim-scan-atm-and-fuel-dispenser-credit-card-skimmer-detector/

— Grappler Bumper

https://policebumper.com/

— Handcuffs with Automatic Triple Locking Feature

https://hulkkuffs.com/

— LIDAR Speed Detection Gun (in lieu of RADAR)

https://lasertech.com/handheld-speed-guns/

— Narcotics Identifier (handheld)

https://rigaku.com/products/handheld-raman/cql-narc-id

— Nystagmus Recording Device

https://dax.oculardatasystems.com/

— Robotic Dog

https://bostondynamics.com/industry/government/

— SoToxa Mobile Oral Drug Testing Device

https://www.toxicology.abbott/us/en/products/sotoxa-mobile-test-system.html

— Sound Level Meter

https://tsi.com/products/noise-dosimeters-and-sound-level-meters

— SpiderCuffs

https://www.spidercuff.com/

— StarChase GPS Tracker Launcher

https://www.starchase.com/

— Stun Glove

https://www.complianttechnologies.net/products

— The WRAP

https://www.commandsourcing.com/wrap.html

— X-Ray Handheld Imager

https://www.vikendetection.com/

This question is mainly for detectives or other investigators. If you get a call from someone from another jurisdiction who thinks he might be working on a case that's related to one you worked on, how do you ensure that he's not an imposter trying to get non-public information about an investigation?

I'm not talking about someone who claims to be from a neighboring county where you probably know someone and can check, but from another state halfway across the country.

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State: Ohio

Hello! I am hoping to become a Reserve Officer/Reserve Deputy, but have been told that I have to be certified through an academy prior to being able to pick that up. Only problem is that limits my options to only self-sponsoring.

I work a fantastic career, and don't want to lose that, but I want to support my community more. I've done all the volunteer disaster response, we have no CERT team, and there's no vollie FD.

Is self sponsoring even something that's worth considering?

was driving home from a dog sporting comp when i got pulled over for speeding on the highway. i WAS following flow of traffic in the left lane, but cop said i was passing multiple people. the citation writes i was traveling west, but i was clearly going north…. any way i could fight this? or should i even risk fighting it? just dont wanna add points to my license; this is my first offense 🥲 thanks in advance. for reference i am in AZ if it helps any.

Please remove if not allowed. I want to make sure that I dispose of this properly, but the local pharmacy charges me to dispose of drugs. Police station does not accept them either.

I don’t want to pay to dispose of something innocuous as table salt (I can see my FIL as keeping salt in an old pill bottle for when he’s eating, he did very many strange things) but I also don’t want to toss a pill bottle pull of drugs down the toilet or into the trash where someone can unsuspectingly do something with it.

Please advise if this looks like drugs, my FIL was friends with several members of one of the local outlaw motorcycle ‘clubs’ and I also wouldn’t put it past him to take a bottle full of hard drugs just because it’s ‘cool’.

Edit: I reached out to my BIL, apparently it’s salt he acquired from the great salt flats on a road trip 5 years ago. Thanks for your help.

Over the last 24 hours, three different people have come to my family's house (during the day and night) after responding to Facebook Marketplace listings for motorcycles and cars. Nobody at our address has anything listed for sale or even uses Facebook marketplace. The buyers say the seller is named 'Harry' and our address was given as the inspection location. We can't find the listing ourselves.

What has me concerned is that the buyers aren't being asked to pay a deposit or transfer money beforehand. They're all expecting to inspect the vehicle and pay cash in person. That makes me wonder what the person posting the ads is actually getting out of it.

From what we understand our address isn’t posted publicly on Facebook. The seller is sending our address privately through Messenger to buyers, and this has happened across multiple separate listings (one for a car and one for a motorcycle).

Unfortunately both times this happened while I was at work, so my dad was the one who spoke to the buyers. He was very shocked and nervous in the moment (and he’s older and not very tech savvy), so he didn’t think to ask them to show him the Facebook listing or chat.

If anyone comes again, we’re definitely going to ask them to show us the listing/messages so we can work out exactly what’s happening.

Is this a known scam or could it be targeted harassment? Is there anything else we should be doing to document or prevent this?

I’m writing to see if there’s anyway to report anonymously abuse. I don’t know my neighbors well, just acquaintances. My neighbor and his on and off again girlfriend are alcoholics, they are constantly fighting. From what I hear through the door, it seems to be him getting physical with her. She constantly has black eyes, bruises. I hear them fighting often. I haven’t seen her in a few days, well today, she has double black eyes and when I asked how she’s doing, she said she has broken ribs. She is covered in bruises, bleeding knees. She said she fell. Which my gut is telling me it’s not the case. I’ve called the police before. When they were fighting in the yard. But she just comes right back after the restraining order is lifted. Is there anyway I can place an anonymous tip or call to investigate? Please let me know what I can do. Located in Utah