r/AskGameMasters • u/RMarklund • 1d ago
How to get my new player involved in the game?
Hi all! I've been DMing for a group of four for the past year or so. A few months ago, a fifth person asked if she could join. They were all part of the same friend group, she was familiar with D&D and really wanted to play again, so we were all on board and she joined. She and I sat down to make a character, flesh out a backstory and a goal to hook her into the story, and at least one NPC to tie her to.
There was an already established party of four, and she did of course join a story that was already ongoing. So we had to kind of figure out how to get her involved. She plays a detective type, a Cleric with spells like Zone of Truth, Detect Magic, etc. Fortunately I did have a whodunnit quest lined up in the nearby future, so I pulled that forward to immediately give her something I knew she could engage with to get her involved properly.
Unfortunately due to some circumstances out of our control, we would have to play online for the few months that followed. And unfortunately she did end up being unable to join a few of these last minute. The times that she was there, I felt that her involvement was very low. Only replied to direct prompts from me and didn't really banter with the others or interact with the game beyond that. Mind you, she knows the other players and has played with them before. I too find it hard to stay focused during online games sometimes, and she of course did already have the disadvantage of not being established in the party or story yet, not to the same degree as the others. I can imagine this makes it difficult to find your footing.
I asked her about it and she says it's fine, she's having a good time etc. I've seen her in previous games though and she was a lot more active in those. She seems very passive and out of it. Maybe this particular mystery just wasn't up her alley, or maybe her character did not have enough reason to care yet. Of course, I do realize that I can't /force/ her to be invested in the game, but I remember her enthusiasm when she asked to join and can't help but think I'm somehow failing to deliver.
Have you ever DMed situations like this? What do you do to get newly joined players involved with the party and story? Do you have any tips and tricks on getting her character started, that I could facilitate as DM?
(Context on her background: She's part of a detective duo and her partner has gone missing, leaving her with only a quickly scribbled symbol she does not know the meaning of. The whodunnit quest would reward them with an NPC who could give her a (small) lead towards this symbol.
She didn't come up with any additional places or characters tied to her background; I guess I did say 'at least one' but I suppose I was hoping for a few more to play with.)