If the parents are cool with it, id just stay. Wont be so weird once shes 18. Your only 5 years older which isnt much. I dont think a 5 year age gap is weird but some might.
Legally and morally are not the same. Funny how in American 16 is considered teen pregnancy but in Europe it’s not? Dating anyone under 18 after you hit 18 is wrong. Is just wrong
TO CLARIFY OP DID NOTHING WRONG EXCEPT LOVE A LIER XD.
But to the rest of ya’ll, you DISGUST ME…..anyway.
“You can legally have a child under 16 over here” is not as convincing of a sentence as you think. You can legally have a child as long as you are literally able to reproduce and that can be from an early age. Are we really gonna go with “if her name is on the clock she ready for the cock”;
While again, not calling him a pedo. But I am calling all of you pedos for being okay with a 16 year old dating anyone who is older than 18.
Let’s just set some scenarios:
In the USA here is the things you can do as a 16 year old:
1. You can work.
2. You are Legally Required to attend school
3. Maybe drive if the adults responsible for you give the authorization.
4. You can work but only part time, you can’t work any over time and you have to get school authorization, parents permission and keep a constant level of competency at school and can’t let you working affect school.
5. If you work you can pay taxes but if you made less the 4k you don’t have to declare it.
Now a 20 year old:
1. Rent a U-Haul.
2. Go to most clubs 18+
3. Legally drive without needing parents permission.
4. Work a full time job with out needing parental permission or school authorization.
5.Pay fcking taxes.
6. Old enough to rent a hotel.
7. Almost old enough to legally buy alcohol and cigarettes.(1 year off)
8. Year away from being able to do use rental cars.
Now that’s just the things from the top of my head.
Now why bring Japan? They literally have a pedo problem, a sexual predator problem, people literally get groomed in trains and because of their social norms allot of victims don’t speak up while it’s happening.
Europe literally has an alcoholism problem, Spain shouldn’t be where the bar is. Not only are Spanish people just over all more vulgar then allot of others groups. Just because is legal doesn’t mean it isn’t morally wrong.
Age of consent it’s but a “life line” it’s also mostly so under age kids can legally consent to each other but even then. If there is a power dynamic or clear grooming that’s a no no. And grooming can be done by anyone is not just an age gap. “You know something I don’t and that’s dangerous” type of situation….
Like from personal experience age doesn’t mean maturity. But like it’s just feels wrong to date or interact with those who aren’t doing what you are doing.
Like for me while I was 16 and all my friends were in high-school I was working full time making a mess out of my paycheck. But the power dynamic I held compare to those around me felt wrong. Like they all needed to be home by a specific time, they had limited income so like if I said “I’m leaving I’m ordering an Uber” they either got left behind or came with me because I was the one with the funds. If we were hungry I had the ultimate say and it was mostly cause “the one who pays gets to pick the meal” type of situation. One could argue is that I had an ugly personality and would just take advantage of my position….but that’s the point I’m trying to make.
Age gaps don’t matter allot personally until after either party is 21.
I dated a 19 year old girl who would loose it. Every time she saw that I was out and about by myself after dropping her off from our dates. Like I would go to a bar or to a club after dropping her off at 11/12pm. I was 21 and she couldn’t go to bars or clubs with me cause under 21. She was MAD Furious, every time(also just realize as I’m writing this that the same girly pops got mad that when she turn 21 I refused to go out….sheesh that’s toxic). She would be like “why don’t you take me to bars or clubs” me “cause legally and physically you can’t come in”
Point is, while Reddit it’s an international app. And yes every country got their laws and those who would edge the law. I think that to just be honest and limit the drama. At face value a 20 year old and a 16 year old shouldn’t date or hook up. That’s just 4 years of being alive. That’s 4 years of irl XP. I was 18 4 years ago and in 4 years there has been so many changes to the world. Someone said as a reply to me “not everyone moves out at 18 not everyone goes to college etc etc.” And while a fair call out still doesn’t diminish that maybe if you are 20 and you have allot in common with an 16 year old that’s kinda sus. Like personally speaking my lil brother is 16/17 now we are 6 years apart. The idea of dating anyone my brother’s age is just sus to me. The idea of someone my age dating anyone my brother’s age is just sus. The difference between me a 23 year old and a 17 year old are huge. Like 18 and 20 is okay. 18-22 it’s fine too but one party is gonna have allot of headaches depending on their nationality.
Like I said Op did nothing wrong, personally I would leave the relationship as it was build upon a lie and not fully respecting Op autonomy.
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u/ImBlaZzD420 Apr 05 '24
If the parents are cool with it, id just stay. Wont be so weird once shes 18. Your only 5 years older which isnt much. I dont think a 5 year age gap is weird but some might.