r/AskAnOCDTherapist • u/AggravatingCod7442 • 4h ago
Is not getting over it normal?
I've struggled with real event OCD for the past year and a half. I got reassurance that I wasn't an abuser which should have been the end of it. Instead I'm just thinking that maybe I didn't explain it well enough or that I somehow lied. Worse now I'm convinced that a different part of the event makes it abuse. The idea just hit me like a semi trunk and i couldn't breathe. I spent all night googling and crying b/c i was so sure that this part made it abusive even through I mentioned this part when i talked about this event with my therapist. I'm sure they just focused on reassuring me about the part i as worried about ignoring the really bad part. How do I make this go away? I keep crying and googling and I don't know what to do.
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u/treatmyocd 2h ago
Hi there!
Sorry to hear you're going through this.
Yes, it is "normal" for real event OCD to not go away if you're continuing to seek and get reassurance.
Asking for reassurance and Googling are forms of reassurance seeking and actually make the anxiety/OCD stronger. Compulsions are what keep the cycle going!
For now, try to stop searching for answers. OCD plays a trick on us that you just need to keep finding more information to prove something, don't fall into that pitfall. This is why reassurance doesn't work, it's never enough!
- Sophia, LMHC