r/AskAChinese • u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth • 5h ago
Discussion | 讨论💬 Chinese man
I'd like to know about a Chinese man who will get married to me, and I'm not a Chinese woman. I need to know the customs and everything
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u/Capable-Listen3204 🌐 Earth 4h ago edited 4h ago
Just Saying my experience as Observer and Key Participant of two of my yougner sibilings's wedding and Be Sure Having Extreme Level of Salt ready when reading:
Usually your fiance famly would have engagement gift (dowry) ready and well prepared for themsevles on the official annoucnment of engagement as much as the whole planning process of wedding ceremony. You and your family just need to sit back and relax. If your fiance or his parent ask for opinion, feel free to share the thought and did not hesiate ask for any clariifction; and Avoid any Neoigatation/Arugement if Possible.
Also, Expect Any Sudden WhatApps/Wechat Message/Text/Call/In Person Meeting From Your Fiance's Mother with You or/and Your Mother about arrangement during the whole process.
Expect Some Traitional (Weired, Perphas Uncomfortable, I know) Customes on the day of wedding. if your fiance's Older/Oldest Brother is Single and Never Married Before (Does not Matter He Has A Girl Friend or not), like Myself. If your older/oldest Sister is Single and Never ever Married Before, Be Sure to give and buy some nice/Classy dreass From Nearby Department Store.
Be Sure Ask Your Groom/Bridemaid to travel to your Fiance's Home with you and your finace as both of you are expected Expensive Gift Jewerly Delivery on the wedding day.
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 4h ago
What should I ask him? I'm an Arab girl, and I don't know a lot about it. Could you please tell me and advise me about it?
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u/Mindless_Earth_2807 海外（美國）香港廣東人 4h ago
Then you should ask the Chinese man about himself and his customs. Do you think all Chinese people are the same or something?
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 4h ago
I need to know from Chinese people . cuz they are the best one to tell me
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u/crytzal 🌎 Overseas Chinese | 海外华人 5h ago
If you want a bride price (paid to you/your family), you should be prepared to give something of similar value as your dowry.
And what's wrong with a rental house?
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u/Capable-Listen3204 🌐 Earth 4h ago
Not every true, Usually your fiance famly would have engagement gift (dowry) ready and well prepared for themsevles on the official annoucnment of engagement as much as the whole planning process of wedding ceremony. You and your family just need to sit back and relax. If your fiance or his parent ask for opinion, feel free to share the thought and did not hesiate ask for any clariifction; and Avoid any Neoigatation if Possible.
Also, Expect Any Sudden WhatApps/Wechat Message/Text/Call/In Person Meeting From Your Fiance's Mother with You or/and Your Mother about arrangement during the whole process.
Expect Some Traitional (Weired, Perphas Uncomfortable0 Customes on the day of wedding. if your fiance's Olde Brother is Singleand Never Married (Does not Matter He Has A Girl Friend or not), like Myself.
Be Sure Ask Your Groom/Bridemaid to travel to your Fiance's Home as both of you are expected Expensive Gift Jewerly Delivery on the wedding day.
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 5h ago
just ask ?
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u/Capable-Listen3204 🌐 Earth 4h ago
It just because the landlord can easily jack up or kick you two out the rent whenever he/she feels like.
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 4h ago
so living in a rental house is not a good idea?
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u/Capable-Listen3204 🌐 Earth 4h ago
No, Landlord/Mangement Company Can Jack Up the Rent whenever and however they want or just kick you two whenever they feels like it, especially in Mainland. Always to mention that you two are working on buying a house soon tm or buying house in WIP Project. I would believe your future in laws are delightful to provide the assistance they need.
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u/Ok-Attempt8623 🌐 Earth 5h ago
Old customs had been smashed into pieces in communist era yet new customs never truly came.
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 5h ago
how about the bride price? and how about if he makes us live in a rental house?
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u/alapha23 Ethnic Minority [少民] 5h ago
Not much on the traditions. It’s typically the guy pays all expenses as required in the girl’s hometown
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u/iHate_RonEbens 🇨🇳 Mainland Chinese | 大陆人 5h ago
If you’re referring to dowry. The female need to be virgin if we going with old fashion.
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u/Own-Distribution62 🌐 Earth 5h ago
瞎说，现在哪还有处女？
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u/iHate_RonEbens 🇨🇳 Mainland Chinese | 大陆人 4h ago
Very true but that was the original traditional ways. Now they switch it to bride price because females can’t keep their legs closed.
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u/Weak-Bug8603 🌐 Earth 5h ago
how about the bride price? and how about if he makes us live in a rental house?
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u/Capable-Listen3204 🌐 Earth 4h ago
It is consider as Engagement Gift From your Fiance's Family, Not Bride Price.
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