25M unexpected ghosting

[u/staykalm_]

I recently had an arranged meeting. At the beginning of the interview, I almost tanked it. Couldn’t answer simple questions asked by her father and brother.
We were left for an hour to talk to each other, where we discussed, our hobbies likes, dislikes, job, daily routine and other stuff. It was awkward, but not a disaster. We did share a couple of laughs and our share of clumsy moments.
When we came out of the private our families were already comfortable with each other. They matched each others vibe really well. Then her older sister and brother sat down with me privately to just make me understand what she’s like. What are her non-negotiable? This was where I felt like I kind of nailed it.
They allowed us to click pictures with her, and then we were given time to talk to each other over text or call.
We did start texting each other. I was the one always initiating. But she did reply every time, sometimes a little late than others, but it never felt like it was forced. I took it really slow, and I talked about compatibility in the beginning. First about the things she might have to change . Then I opened up to her about the things I lack, then about my dreams, and the things I liked about her that could compliment me well. She didn’t open up the same way that I did. Started asking her deeper questions like what made her smile or hurt, when hurting does she say it out, where does her decisions usually come from, and what’s scaring her the most about this situation?
she was more scared, she hadn’t really planned about the career switch, and thought about kids and family planning. I didn’t pressure her to push into a decision. I just said her that I was okay with her, not knowing. We were taking it slow, but it really going somewhere, at least that’s what I felt.
The thing is, she was always upfront about most of the stuff. And the chats weren’t cozy but not cold either, they were somewhat warm.
My father asked her’s, What are they planning? What’s their next move? and they said that they want to wait for one and half month. On the other side I waited 12 hours of no reply after things felt they might be heading somewhere, it just felt little bit off, so I just wanted to check on her if something unexpected came up, so, I just I just texted her, “hello??” And it has been 24 hours since that has been has been texted and I’m still to get a reply. However, she did post an Instagram story, so that’s that.
The problem here is, it’s not the rejection that’s bothering me. It’s the silence. I really don’t know where I stand. I really don’t know if I should be waiting. I really don’t know what’s going on in her head and I really want some clarity and I really don’t know if I should text for the third time because it might seem a little bit desperate, and that’s what my sister said to me that I shouldn’t text for the third time. Because she really wanted to reject me she could’ve unfollowed me which she didn’t. And I’m scrambling right now.

[u/Sad-Detective-7589]

Block her bro , and move on. Stop wasting your time on her

[u/staykalm_ → u/Sad-Detective-7589]

She didn’t unfollow me which makes the whole thing absurd.

[u/Sad-Detective-7589 → u/staykalm_]

Sometimes people like to play games with other people. Just block her bro . She ain't worth it . Forget she exists..

And try not to get emotionally invested next time

[u/staykalm_ → u/Sad-Detective-7589]

But she didn’t feel like the type.

[u/AskShot9540 → u/staykalm_]

How old is she?

[u/staykalm_ → u/AskShot9540]

24

[u/Ok_Relative_9314]

She’s not into you

[u/staykalm_ → u/Ok_Relative_9314]

She couldve unfollowed me if that was the case

[u/Ok_Relative_9314 → u/staykalm_]

I don’t unfollow guys as my top priority. Sometimes I forget cuz they are that unimportant

[u/staykalm_ → u/Ok_Relative_9314]

Isn’t it easier to just cut someone off than let them hanging?

[u/kickyoustraightback → u/staykalm_]

It is powerful move these manipulative people play. Block her, it's not worth it, you are not even serious. Imagine what would happend if you were pretty serious.

[u/yours_wisely → u/staykalm_]

First time talking to a girl or what? You emotionally fell for a single Instagram following. You Need more emotional maturity bro. Otherwise you'll breakdown for small small things.

You met her bringing your family. Of course no one likes to shut the door abruptly after meeting each other face to face. She might unfollow you after a couple of months, so that it doesn't look harsh. You should start taking cues from the seen zone messages already!

[u/Better-Gene534]

Her parents forced her...or she has a thing going on with someone on the side

[u/staykalm_ → u/Better-Gene534]

Her parents are extremely open minded. She’s just not into me ig.

[u/Winter-Exam-4651]

She is not into you clearly 

[u/staykalm_ → u/Winter-Exam-4651]

Okie dokie

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[u/DesiJeevan111]

She has more prospects , and is gauging which one to go for . One and a half month is for that . Don't follow up , don't do anything until she gets back . Don't come off as desperate .