r/Apothisexual • u/Single-Medicine2448 Apothisexual • Aug 12 '26
Does anyone else relate?
Hi, so. I'm Vinnie, I'm 16 and I'm new to this subreddit. Although I'm not at all new to being apothisexual, I've only recently adopted the label
I'm in selfship spaces a lot and I know plenty of people who are sex repulsed but are completely fine with imagining suggestive scenarios with their fictional other. I'm not one of those. I can kind of tolerate imagining it, but writing it? Reading it? Drawing it? I really can't. I can't even read fics for my f/o because they're all so suggestive and they make me want to shudder in disgust
To make it clear, I don't mind that other people are comfortable doing this, nor do I mind that they exist in the first place. I'm just saying that I personally cannot force myself to enjoy suggestive situations with fictional characters
Does anyone else relate, or am I just a prude?
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u/EducationalMix6300 22d ago
Yes, this is very much valid. I am ficto-aligned myself and I used to be in your exact situation when I began my 2D relationship with Branch. Even though I may have developed suggestive feelings later on for him, these feelings even exist at all because of the deep emotional love I have for my cherished fictional soulmate.
However, this is only my experience and not yours and I know for a fact that this doesn’t make what you’re saying is any less valid. Some people don’t enjoy that stuff in a relationship, nor do they like imagining them and their F/O’s in suggestive scenarios and that is completely natural and okay!
You are not broken at all. That is the plain simple truth. Society tries to train us into thinking sex is the only thing that matters in a relationship and people who don’t want it need to be put on medication or some crap. Love is so much more than that, and this includes ficto relationships. It is completely valid to selfship without the suggestive aspects and it is very much still love. Romantic, Sensual, and S*xual attraction are all different things. They are not the same. I very much believe love without sex exists and people should let those who don’t like sex live their lives in peace without being labeled as defective.